<strong>Road</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>Emmaus</strong> Vol. VII, <strong>No</strong>. 1 (#24)SOULS IN MOTIONinterested in the lesson, they are eager <strong>to</strong> listen <strong>to</strong> you, and your realinstruction is even hidden. You don’t need <strong>to</strong> pay so much attention <strong>to</strong> allthese outward things, except for some basics, such as class discipline.<strong>RTE</strong>: At what point do we let them go their own way?FR. A<strong>RTE</strong>MY: Certainly, if it concerns drugs or sex, there is a need <strong>to</strong> explain,<strong>to</strong> caution, and <strong>to</strong> prepare them for these temptations. There are no piousinterviews in the world that will free us from the tension of life and thenecessary podvig of personal prayer, day and night, particularly in regard<strong>to</strong> our children. It is only a mother’s tears poured out in abundance thatguarantees the salvation of her children.<strong>RTE</strong>: In early teenage years, children feel a need <strong>to</strong> fit in, while later theywant <strong>to</strong> be unique. How do you help them balance this so that they don’t go<strong>to</strong>o far either way?FR. A<strong>RTE</strong>MY: It is only our Orthodox belief and life that gives a realconsciousness of God’s presence, when each cell of your being is fed byGod’s grace and you feel the significance of every moment of your life ineternity. It is impossible <strong>to</strong> find a golden mean between this fitting in andindividual uniqueness except in Orthodox piety. In the life of the Churchevery limb has its own mission, its own service, its own destiny, and at thesame time, all these limbs are necessary for each other. As St. Paul says, ahand does not substitute for a leg. An eye cannot say <strong>to</strong> an ear, “I don’t needyou.” They are tied <strong>to</strong>gether with love and form one body. This problem ofuniqueness and fitting in cannot be solved satisfac<strong>to</strong>rily except inside theChurch, where a child finds his own place, his own service in society, andhis own peace in being required by the other limbs.<strong>RTE</strong>: We have two interesting comments here from American teenagersabout fitting in: “I’m Orthodox, but none of my friends at church are, andI don’t want <strong>to</strong> talk about Orthodoxy <strong>to</strong> my friends.”“We are pressured at school <strong>to</strong> not let it be known that we are Christian,and I don’t know if I should speak up in class or not. For example, one ofmy teachers lets everyone know that she is pro-choice on abortion. Do Isay anything <strong>to</strong> my friends or in class about what I believe? Teachers oftenmake political or moral comments that are common in the U.S., but arenot Christian.”FR. A<strong>RTE</strong>MY: First of all, it is not your duty <strong>to</strong> preach Our Lord Jesus Christand <strong>to</strong> tell everybody about the church you attend. Let batiushkas andmissionaries do that, but your place in the world is <strong>to</strong> be an angel ofassiduity, <strong>to</strong> be clever and smart and frank and mild and radiant with energy<strong>to</strong> help your friends in their studies, <strong>to</strong> support them, not <strong>to</strong> steal withthem, not <strong>to</strong> smoke with them, not <strong>to</strong> fight with them, not <strong>to</strong> spit with them,not <strong>to</strong> kiss with them, but you should be like a little sun in your class.In some cases, though, a young Christian is <strong>to</strong> be a confessor and even amartyr, and when you hear about things like abortion in class, you are <strong>to</strong> beboth wise and clever. You might say something like: “My little sister said <strong>to</strong>me, ‘When I grow-up I will never kill a baby in my womb.’ I couldn’t sayanything against this, because I know that I <strong>to</strong>o will never kill any child inmy family.”<strong>RTE</strong>: How do we keep teenagers interested in Church? Until what age is itright <strong>to</strong> insist that they come with you, and at what age do you let them maketheir own decisions? If they are very reluctant should you insist?FR. A<strong>RTE</strong>MY: When this age inevitably comes, this period of doubt, or coldrelations <strong>to</strong> piety, you are <strong>to</strong> prepare for it by finding a work for him or herwithin the Church, which may help when the crisis comes. Church choirs,bell-ringing, classes of needlework and vestment-making, being altar attendants,or catechists for young children. But all these things have a secondaryrole, certainly, because it is your own choice <strong>to</strong> be with Christ or not, <strong>to</strong> bein church or not, and as we in Russia say, your belief and piety are <strong>to</strong> besuffered over. Your faith is <strong>to</strong> be tempered. If you want a living faith you are<strong>to</strong> suffer in seeking it.Certainly, for younger children it is not a bad approach <strong>to</strong> simply requirechurch attendance, particularly within a family when all the children areobliged <strong>to</strong> fulfill this parental rule with no discussion. It is quite right <strong>to</strong>insist and <strong>to</strong> oblige your children <strong>to</strong> share this time in church on Sunday. Itis the life of the whole family.Also, it is quite natural for a child <strong>to</strong> obey his parents in his mild years, andup <strong>to</strong> a certain period a child never invents revolution in his head. 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SOULS IN MOTIONparental power over his personality. In Russia we say, “You are waging waragainst the womb that gave you birth.”However, it is a question as <strong>to</strong> what age, and how hard we should force.Should I tear off his ear and shed his blood in the street while dragging him <strong>to</strong>church? We have a Russian proverb: “Heavenly grace doesn’t commitviolence.” An oppressed soul cannot pray <strong>to</strong> God. Therefore, we parents are <strong>to</strong>be ready for the moment when our children may say, “<strong>No</strong>, this is not the timefor me. When I am ready I will come <strong>to</strong> church again. Don’t force me now.”The only remedy in this instance is the mode of life of the whole family, whenthe grandmother, parents, and brothers and sisters are all permeated with theChurch spirit and cannot imagine Sunday without liturgy.Certainly, our new apostate will not be quite at ease with his reforms.He will feel himself a culprit, as someone who tramples on and violates thecommandments of God. He won’t admit it aloud, but in his heart, rememberingthe calm and peace of his childhood, he will feel regret.<strong>RTE</strong>: Teenagers are spontaneous, and often find it hard and tiresome <strong>to</strong> praywith prayer-books. What can you do if they find prayer boring?FR. A<strong>RTE</strong>MY: We have books from former centuries depicting the deep prayerof teenagers, even the Jesus Prayer. For example, in a famous s<strong>to</strong>ry re<strong>to</strong>ld bya pilgrim <strong>to</strong> his spiritual father, in the Way of a Pilgrim we glimpse theatmosphere of old Russian society and some interesting references <strong>to</strong> youth.But these are exceptions, because they come about owing <strong>to</strong> the pleasingatmosphere of a nearby monastery or an extremely pious family, when ateenager is surrounded not only by icons, but sees holy people with his owneyes. He is imbued with piety, and prayer becomes an inner life for him.St. Basil the Great writes that children have a unique nature, that theyare mostly physical beings. This means that they manifest themselves inoutward movement, and it wouldn’t be wise <strong>to</strong> call them <strong>to</strong> strict innerconcentration, telling them <strong>to</strong> keep their minds free of thoughts and imagesand everything that hinders us from meditating on God.Inevitably, children lose their early angelic state during these teenage years,and we are <strong>to</strong> be ready for this, and not <strong>to</strong> become upset, because this is theperiod when we <strong>to</strong> help them develop their minds and widen their intellectualhorizon. They are <strong>to</strong> master the huge heritage of culture, of the physical sciencesand humanities, and it would be a naïve and strange thing <strong>to</strong> encouragethem in mystical life only. We find in the Holy Fathers the axiom that faith isOleg, young monastery worker,Optina Pustyn, Russia.27
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