Seadet-i Ebediyye - Endless Bliss Fifth Fascicle

adulteress cannot be married by other men” was cancelled with
the third âyat of Nisâ Surâ and with a hadîth-i-sherîf. A person can
have sex with his wife who has committed adultery, without
waiting until the end of iddat period.
Performance of the nikâh agreebly with the sunna: Two or
more sâlih Muslim men gather together. There should be no
women among the men. As well, the men and women should
gather at separate houses for the wedding feast. It is harâm to
show the bride to a nâ-mahram man, covered as she may be. A
person who does not attach due importance to a harâm will
become a disbeliever and his nikâh will be dissolved. At first, one
man from each side should deliver a speech. Then the woman’s
deputy (her wakîl) states the number of gold coins they demand
for her mahr. If the man does not accept this amount, the parties
negotiate and come to an agreement. Then the walî of the woman
or her Muslim wakîl says the following:
“Bismillah walhamdu lillah, was-salâtu ’alâ Rasûlillah” and
then says to the groom “I have given... (name of the girl) who is the
daughter of.... (name of her father) to you for your wife. As her
walî [or her wakîl], I have given... who is the daughter of....., for....
[say, ten Reshad gold coins] of mu’ajjal [that is, to be paid in
advance] and for.... [say, twenty Reshad gold coins] of muejjel
[that is, to be paid later] mahr to you for your wife.” If the groom
is not present, he says these words to his wakîl, but in this case he
does not say, “to you”; instead, he says, “to ... (name of the groom)
who is the son of... (name of the groom’s father)”. These
statements are named îjâb, which means offer. After this, if the
groom is present, he answers as follows: “I have accepted this
nikâh with this specified mahr for me.” If the groom is not present,
his wakîl answers by saying, “I, as wakîl of so and so, have accepted
this nikâh for.... (name of the groom) who is the son of ...... (name
of the groom’s father) with this specified mahr.” It will be better to
say the amount of the mahr when they answer. This answer is
called qabûl. The Islamic nikâh is performed with this procedure
of îjâb and qabûl. [It is mustahab to deliver a paper to the wife
after writing the amount of mahr on it and putting down the
signatures of the groom and the two witnesses. The mahr is a
human right. In case one divorces one’s wife, one has to pay the
mahr to the wife; otherwise one will be put into jail in this world,
and into Hell in the Hereafter, in the next world. It would not be
an easy job for many a person to pay, let’s say twenty gold coins or,
if one Reshad gold coin is ten million liras, to pay about two
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