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<strong>Making</strong> <strong>Your</strong> <strong>First</strong> <strong>Million</strong><br />
meeting in Annerley I was to hear something I needed at that stage <strong>of</strong> my growth. A<br />
heavily pregnant woman, Jane from Canberra spoke: "There's a lot <strong>of</strong> nonsense spoken<br />
about life. If you cut to the chase, there's love <strong>and</strong> there's fear <strong>and</strong> one drives out the<br />
other. Love is forgiveness, patience, acceptance, tolerance, compassion, having a sense <strong>of</strong><br />
humor, <strong>and</strong> not taking yourself too seriously. Fear is judgement, manipulation, blaming,<br />
trying to control outcomes, resentment, hostility, self-pity <strong>and</strong> keeping score. You<br />
choose. You let someone get up your nose they end up living rent-free in your head."<br />
Now that's in your face, but it's what I needed to hear. It put the whole intangible side <strong>of</strong><br />
life, stuff that I'd avoided as s<strong>of</strong>t <strong>and</strong> wussy, down into hard bite-size chunks. Simple.<br />
Underst<strong>and</strong>able. Relevant.<br />
We need to focus on love because without it we shrivel <strong>and</strong> die. Not the Mills & Boon<br />
kind or the Anne <strong>of</strong> Green Gables kind, but the tough kind, the real kind that says: "I'm<br />
here for you. I'll go out <strong>of</strong> my way to help you get well, but you pick up a drink <strong>and</strong> you<br />
pick up the consequences <strong>of</strong> the drink." The kind <strong>of</strong> love that sends Fred Hollows out into<br />
the desert with a hostile department cutting his budget saying: "Stuff the glory. I'm doing<br />
it for Lyle <strong>and</strong> Selma <strong>and</strong> Darcy <strong>and</strong> Shirl <strong>and</strong> the people at Goodooga <strong>and</strong> Toomelah."<br />
The kind <strong>of</strong> love that puts a tiny peasant woman in harm's way in Calcutta saying:<br />
"People die one at a time. We rescue them one at a time. Each one has a name."<br />
Love gives us a name <strong>and</strong> fear a number. Fear categorizes. Love liberates. All <strong>of</strong> my life I<br />
had viewed people through the abacus <strong>of</strong> "What's in it for me?" If they had no tangible<br />
value to me I dismissed them. Today I am discovering that we get what we give. If I give<br />
cynicism <strong>and</strong> superiority, the mirror <strong>of</strong> life returns it to me. If I give kindness <strong>and</strong><br />
compassion it comes back to me. Before my wall <strong>of</strong> self-preservation was broken these<br />
ideas were alien. They were sissy, girly concepts, not fit for red-blooded carnivores. But I<br />
was changing.<br />
My drinking <strong>and</strong> hard-nosed, pr<strong>of</strong>it-driven, business style had alienated me from people.<br />
My caustic marriage had driven people away <strong>and</strong> I was lonely. Sure, I was a financial<br />
success, but that's all I had. I was desperately unhappy. Half-hearted attempts at a normal<br />
social life were met with shocked surprise from those I approached. I had painted myself<br />
into a corner <strong>and</strong> the only friend I had was my drinking buddy, Bernie. When I got sober<br />
<strong>and</strong> surrendered, I discovered the world is full <strong>of</strong> people only too happy to be your friend.<br />
The wall I had built around myself had simply driven them away.<br />
I discovered the remarkable truth: You get what you give away. If you give out cynicism,<br />
alo<strong>of</strong>ness, conceit, superiority, bragging <strong>and</strong> trying to build yourself up by putting others<br />
down, that comes back to you. Drive a Lamborghini <strong>and</strong> you send the message <strong>of</strong><br />
personal insecurity, driving others away, not as we may suspect from envy, but from an<br />
unwillingness to engage with a person who is sending the clear message: "Keep away.<br />
Injured stray." The shallower <strong>and</strong> lonelier our life, the more we advertise it through<br />
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