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THE <strong>ETHICAL</strong> SLUT<br />
garden. Safety note: if your feelings like intense physical expression,<br />
you will need to keep a piece of your mind alert to the fact that you're<br />
heavily adrenalized and feel stronger than you actually are, so give a<br />
little attention to what you can do without injury. Dossie once hiked<br />
up a big hill in a stressed-out state and felt powerful and wonderfulshe<br />
remembers thinking about how she must be in much better shape<br />
then she thought she was. The next day was agony of the physical kind,<br />
with strained muscles and swollen joints.<br />
Try finding music that fits your mood, angry or sad or frantic, and<br />
dancing your feelings out. It can be very satisfying to get a cheap plastic<br />
tennis racket and beat up your couch. Kneel in front of the couch, raise<br />
the racket above your head, and bring it down with all your strength.<br />
Keep your eyes open, imagine anything on the couch that you are angry<br />
at except yourself, and yell, loudly, how you feel.<br />
When you express yourself, you get to know yourself better and<br />
work out some of the most intense stress constructively. The least you<br />
could wind up with would be a clean kitchen, and you might actually<br />
feel good after a self-indulgent afternoon on the beach.<br />
POOR BABY<br />
Try focusing on the feelings in your body: where do you feel these emotions,<br />
in your throat, chest, gut? Turning your attention to the physical<br />
sensations can intensify them and might bring up tears, but they will<br />
move on through even more readily if you allow yourself to feel them<br />
on the physical level. If rage comes welling up, you can pound on a<br />
pillow. If you start to cry, let it flow, remembering the sense of relief<br />
that comes after expressing intense emotion in tears. Janet likes to seek<br />
out a tearjerker book or movie to help her get tears out when she feels<br />
stuck. (Terms of Endearment has never failed her yet.)<br />
Some people have trouble doing this because they've been taught<br />
that it's wrong to feel sorry for yourself. So who else should you feel<br />
sorry for? Stay in sympathy with yourself: you feel bad, so be kind to<br />
yourself.<br />
You can talk to a friend, or your other lover, presuming you have<br />
made agreements about confidentiality with everybody who might<br />
care if you gossip. Janet has a deal with a good friend of hers for telephone<br />
support. She can call her friend up and ask for five minutes of<br />
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