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THE <strong>ETHICAL</strong> SLUT<br />
directly conscious of-connected to-that divinity that always flows<br />
through you . ... For us, sex is already an opportunity to see god."<br />
SEX WORKERS<br />
Despite what you might have learned from the TV or the tabloids, sex<br />
workers really are not all desperate drug addicts, debased women, or<br />
predatory gold diggers. Many healthy and happy women and men work<br />
in the sex industry, doing essential and positive work healing the wounds<br />
inflicted by our sex-negative culture. We know them as friends, lovers,<br />
colleagues, writers, therapists, and educators, as well as performers<br />
and artists. These folks have a great deal to teach us about boundaries,<br />
limit-setting, communication, sexual negotiation, and ways to achieve<br />
growth, connection, and fulfillment outside a traditional monogamous<br />
relationship. Do not imagine that connections between sex workers and<br />
clients are necessarily cold, impersonal, or degrading, or that only losers<br />
frequent prostitutes. Many client/prostitute relationships become a<br />
source of tremendous connection, warmth, and affection for both parties,<br />
and last many years. Practitioners of the world's oldest profession<br />
offer all of us the wisdom of the ages about understanding, accepting,<br />
and fulfilling our desires: these are the real sex experts.<br />
Cultural Diversity<br />
While we are looking at sexual diversity, let's remember that we live<br />
in a multicultural society, and that every culture in our world, every<br />
subculture, every ethnic culture, has its own ways of creating relationship,<br />
connecting in sex, and building families. All of those ways are<br />
valid and valuable.<br />
One of the great joys of living as a slut is the opportunity to make<br />
intimate connections with people whose background is very different<br />
from your own. When you do that, you will find yourself tripping,<br />
with some embarrassment, over a lot of differences, the way Dossie<br />
and her friends from Japan used to trip over each other in doorways:<br />
in Japan, men go through the door first. Getting used to differences<br />
can feel awkward, but every time it happens you've learned something<br />
new about how people go about being human.<br />
Maybe something that you learn will be just the thing you've been<br />
looking for that was lacking in your own culture. Dossie came from a<br />
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