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THE ETHICAL SLUT
who like to be playful with their gender presentation, are called "genderqueer,"
"gender-fluid," or "gender-bent."
Kink: Any form of sex outside the mainstream. Often used specifically for
BDSM, leather, and/or fetish play.
Leather: Another way of talking about BDSM and related behaviors.
Generally in wider use in gay, lesbian, and queer circles.
Munch: A social get-together of polyfolk in a restaurant or similar location.
Munches started as a way for Internet-based polyfolk to meet face to
face. Munches have been established for many online communities.
Nonjudgmental: An attitude that is free of irrational or unjustifiable moralizing.
"Nonjudgmental" does not mean all-accepting; it means being
willing to judge an activity or relationship on the basis of how well it
works for the participants and not on some external standard of absolute
rightness or wrongness.
Nonmonogomy: We don't generally use this term, because it implies that
monogamy is the norm and that any other way of relating is somehow a
deviation from that norm (i.e., it's "monogamy-centrist"-see our definition
of "Centrist" above).
Nymphomania: See Promiscuity.
Openhearted ness: Greeting the world with compassion and without defensiveness;
opening yourself to whatever love or connection life offers you.
Open relationship: A relationship in which the people involved have some
degree of freedom to fuck and/or love people outside the relationship. Hence,
an eight-person group marriage may still be either "open" or "closed."
Orientation: Usually used to mean gay, lesbian, bisexual, or heterosexual.
Many people engage in sex, romance, and/or intimacy outside the boundaries
of their chosen orientation, without feeling the need to change that
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