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THE <strong>ETHICAL</strong> SLUT<br />
hand strays in vaguely the right direction ... while hoping desperately<br />
that the bewildered partner will figure out what they're trying to ask for.<br />
Wouldn't it be easier if we could just say, "I would really love it if you<br />
ran your finger around my clit in a circle instead of up and down" or<br />
"I need you to grab my dick much harder"?<br />
GOAL ORIENTATION<br />
The tyranny of hydraulics is a tremendous obstacle to terrific sex, and<br />
not in the way that the manufacturers of Viagra would have you believe.<br />
Many people believe that if there is no penis with an erection, nothing<br />
sexy is happening. (Lesbians, of course, disagree most vehemently.)<br />
Many men feel they can't even engage in foreplay while they are soft,<br />
and many women are insulted if they discover a soft penis while they<br />
are getting aroused. And still more people are completely nonplussed<br />
if the penis in question decides to release at a time that is inconvenient<br />
for the rest of the activity, as if there were no sex after ejaculation. We<br />
want to encourage you to think beyond the hydraulics of erection and<br />
allow your playful explorations to go wherever they want to go, no<br />
matter where the participants may be in the sexual response cycle.<br />
When sex becomes goal oriented, we may race to orgasm with such<br />
single-minded focus that we never even notice all the lovely sensations<br />
that come before (and, for that matter, after). When we concentrate our<br />
attention on genital sex to the exclusion of the rest of our bodies, we<br />
are excluding most of ourselves from the transaction. When we ignore<br />
most of the good parts, we increase our chance of developing sexual<br />
dysfunction, and we miss out on all the good feelings.<br />
GENDER RO LES<br />
. To be truly free to explore our sexual potential to the fullest, most of<br />
us need to examine how we have been taught that a man or a woman is<br />
supposed to enjoy sex. Many of us were taught that it is natural for men<br />
to be sexually aggressive and for women to be passive responders. Your<br />
authors like both of these roles and many others too. When it comes<br />
to what feels good, we are all highly individual human beings-and,<br />
despite what you may have heard, we all come from the same planet.<br />
When men are forbidden to be receptive, then a man is not allowed<br />
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