ETHICAL

THE ETHICAL SLUT
There will be lockers or coat racks or shelves or some place to put
your street clothes, then either change into party costume or simply
disrobe. Some parties are mostly naked, others feature a dazzling
array of costumes for every sexual fantasy. There will be provisions
for cleanliness, including bathrooms and showers. Then there will be
the play room or rooms.
Play rooms vary from tiny cubicles, often set up in mazes, with a
small bed just big enough to fuck on, to large rooms with mirrored
walls and upholstered floors for puppy piles, group gropes, and other
orgiastic activities. There may be hot tubs, steam rooms, and gardens
for you to cruise and relax in. There may be an area for dancing.
There is almost always music with a very strong beat, to wake up your
natural rhythm and to give a sense of aural privacy so you won't be
distracted by your neighbor's heavy breathing or squeals of delight.
The lights will be low, and often red or orange, so we all can look a
little tan and perhaps a little sexier. There may be rooms with furniture
imaginatively designed to have sex on, like medical examining tables
or slings, mirrored beds or dungeons for S/M fantasies, or perhaps a
giant waterbed for those who like to make waves.
In recent years, hotels that host conferences for various groups celebrating
their lifestyles have been allowing party spaces, even dungeons,
to be built in their ballrooms for the guests to enjoy. These parties are
run by the conference and usually staffed by helpful conference volunteers,
with cooperation from the hotel staff to keep the space private.
Hotels tend to like our conferences-we don't drink too much, we are
polite to the staff, and we wear great outfits. Talk about the radical
political act of deprivatizing sex! Major hotel chains now have policies
about play parties, policies that support us. Yay.
Play party spaces tend to form communities. People try out the
various parties in their area and usually return to one or two groups
that they find congenial. As people get to know each other and share
the special intimacy of sexual connection, they often become friends
and form extended families. It is not unusual at all to find a sex party
club hosting a benefit for a member who has had an accident or a
major illness. These are communities, and communities take care of
their own.
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