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Sex and Pleasure<br />
strategies for safer sex and birth control and more language so you can<br />
more easily talk with your partners about all of this good stuff. Some<br />
clever sluts read a chapter a week of a good book with a partner and<br />
perhaps talk about it on Friday over dinner-a nice way to prepare<br />
for the weekend.<br />
These days there is also a lot of information and discussion on the<br />
Internet. We applaud this freedom of information, and we also want<br />
you to be careful, because much of the information you read and hear<br />
about sex will be inaccurate. Because sexology is such a new science,<br />
and because research into what people actually do in sex is difficult<br />
and often inconclusive, and because we as a culture have not talked<br />
explicitly about sex for a very long time, fairy tales abound, and reality<br />
can be hard to come by. Collect all the information you can, use<br />
what works for you, and take it all with a grain of salt. Fortunately,<br />
here's lots of sex information available these days in books, magazines,<br />
podcasts, websites, and more-plenty to choose from. The best part<br />
of learning about sex is that you'll love the homework.<br />
SPEECH LESSN ESS<br />
If you can't talk about sex, how can you think about it? The historical<br />
censorship of discussion about sex has left us with another disability:<br />
the act of talking about sex, of putting words to what we do in bed,<br />
has become difficult and embarrassing. Although most of us have had<br />
the experience of failed sexual functioning in one way or another, most<br />
of us never get the chance to get support from our friends and lovers<br />
about it-sexual dysfunction becomes our secret shame, a position from<br />
which it is virtually impossible to figure out a way to function better.<br />
What little language we can use to talk about sex is riddled with<br />
negative judgments. Either you speak in medical language of vulvas and<br />
penile intromission-which sounds like you need to be a doctor to talk<br />
about sex, so it must be a disease-or you have gutter language (fucking<br />
cunt, hard dick) that makes everything sound like an insult. What you<br />
can't talk about, you can hardly think about-a crippling disability.<br />
People who can't use words often resort to trying to communicate without<br />
words: pressing their partner's head downward, moving their hips<br />
to try to get that tongue in just the right place, feigning ecstasy when a<br />
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