ETHICAL

The Single Slut
THE RIGHTS OF THE SINGLE SLUT
• You have the right to be treated with respect-you are not
half a person just because you are single.
• You have the right to have your feelings heard and respected
and responded to.
• You have the right to ask for anything you want-the person
you ask may not have to give it to you, but you are definitely
allowed to ask.
• You have the right to have dates and plans honored, not
changed by a third party simply because that person has
seniority.
• You have the right to chicken soup when you are sick, and
whatever other emergency support you may need-rides to the
emergency room, help when your car breaks down. Your lovers
are your friends, and friends help each other when things
go wrong.
• You have the right to negotiate family holidays like Thanksgiving
and weekends involving your own and your lovers'
children: you are a member of any family you are in relationship
with. How this works may look different depending
on the values of the family you're connecting to, but you
definitely have the right to ask for more than just being somebody's
dirty little secret.
• You have the right to have limits and to set limits: what you
will and will not do, what is and is not negotiable for your
emotional well-being and personal ecology.
• You have the right to not be blamed for problems in other
people's relationships.
• You have the right to refuse to be a dumping ground for someone's
marital woes-you may not want to listen to how much
your lover wants a divorce, and you shouldn't have to.
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