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THE <strong>ETHICAL</strong> SLUT<br />
form, and something reminiscent of a clan or a tribe may evolve. Then<br />
the question of introducing your lovers can become obsolete, as they<br />
may already know each other.<br />
If you are a single person in any open sexual lifestyle, you must<br />
pay attention to how you are getting your sexual, emotional, and<br />
social needs met. You can do this in an infinite variety of ways. The<br />
important thing is to be aware of your needs and wants, so you can<br />
go about getting them met with full consciousness. If you pretend that<br />
you have no needs, for sex, for affection, for emotional support, you<br />
are lying to yourself, and you will wind up trying to get your needs<br />
met by indirect methods that won't work very well. People who do<br />
this often get called manipulative or passive-aggressive-terms, in our<br />
opinion, for people who have not figured out how to get their needs<br />
met in a straightforward manner. Do not commit yourself to a lifetime<br />
of hinting and hoping.<br />
When you figure out what you want and ask for it, you'll be surprised<br />
how often the answer is "yes." Think how relieved you might<br />
feel when someone asks you for support, or a hug, or otherwise lets<br />
you know how to please him. Think of how competent and just plain<br />
good you feel when you can truly help another person, whether it's by<br />
offering a shoulder to cry on or that just-right stimulation that leads<br />
to the perfect orgasm. Give your friends the opportunity to feel good<br />
by fulfilling you too.<br />
Partnerships<br />
There are multiple forms of open relationships for the partnered, including<br />
serial monogamy, where one's various partners are separated in<br />
time, and the ever-popular nonconsensual nonmonogamy, otherwise<br />
known as cheating. We can think of these lifestyles as unconscious<br />
free love, but your authors feel both freer and safer when we love right<br />
out in the open.<br />
It is axiomatic that open relationships work best when a couple takes<br />
care of each other and their relationship first, before they include others<br />
in their dynamic. So the slut couple needs to be willing to do the work<br />
we will describe later in this book to communicate well and to handle<br />
jealousy, insecurity, and territoriality with the highest consciousness.<br />
Cuuples m:t:J lU knuw and communicate their boundanes, to make<br />
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