ETHICAL

THE ETHICAL SLUT
people will not consummate sex with a lover until all these issues have
been dealt with, and those are fine decisions to make if they fit your
lifestyle: long engagements can be a very good idea.
After the crush is over, some people will find a long-term place in
your life, often unexpected, like the lover who has become your kid's
favorite uncle or your partner's business partner. Others may leave,
and when they leave with warm feelings, they may come back again
in the future, when once again there is a place for them in your life or
for you in theirs. Thus the infinitely connected polyamorous slut builds
his web of extended families and tribes.
Two of our favorite sluts have been together nearly twenty years,
loving each other and a lot of other wonderful people. One year, for
Tina's birthday, Trace bought her what we think is the ultimate birthday
present: three season tickets to an excellent performance series ...
one for Tina, one for Trace, and one for whichever of Tina's lovers she
chose to invite to each event. (Dossie got to see Ravi Shankar!)
Primary and Primary and . . .
Some very capable sluts maintain more than one primary relationship.
Dossie has known one such couple, Robert and Celia, for almost four
decades. They together raised two children from previous relationships,
and subsequently some grandchildren. Each has another primary
partner, both usually women, and family relationships with all their
exes. Robert's outside partner May was originally lover to Celia's lover
Judy back in 1985, then became lovers with Celia, and finally with
Robert from 1988 to the present and, they intend, on into the future.
Some years ago Miranda and Celia lived upstairs, and Robert and
May lived downstairs. Currently Cheryl, another of Celia's previous
girlfriends, lives upstairs and helps with the grandchildren; Miranda,
another of Celia's exes, visits two days a week since she lives out of
town but attends school nearby. Are you dizzy yet? All of these people,
plus many other friends and lovers of various degrees of intimacy, both
present and historical, and most of their friends and lovers, form a very
long-term extended family that has lived, loved, and raised children
together for nearly forty years and plans to care for one another in
their old age. We are impressed .
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