The Ultimate Body Language Book

each party is submitting to the needs and desires of the other, which naturally leads into a perpetual
negotiation. However, during the initial stages of intimacy, it is the woman who is nearly universally
required to submit for sexual intimacy to develop. It is my contention that men require women to
submit through their ego and preference, and women crave it in order to set off a visceral response that
eventually produces within them a desire to have sex or submit. If men and women can’t get over this
initial stage of negotiation, no long term relationship will follow and no partnership, equal or unequal
will follow. Therefore, accept it or not, men prefer women that show submissive postures, and as
mentioned, I believe that women if allowed to, actually enjoy the submissive process, no matter how
archaic it sounds. In other words, there’s nothing sexier to a women than “being swept her off her feet.”
Some of the most common ways to display submissively includes turning the toes in called pigeon toes
or “tibial torsion”, shoulder shrugs, exposing the neck or wrists, head tilt, smiling, the forehead bow
and childlike playfulness. The second class of signals relates to making a women appear sexier and
playing up her sexual aspects. Some of those signals include tossing the hair, tilting the pelvis, the
parade, the room encompassing glance, grooming and preening, the leg twine (where the legs are
tightly pressed together) and leg crossing, hiking the skirt and or dressing provocatively. The third way
to indicate interest are proximity related such as moving closer, pointing and eye contact which is
figurative closeness, touching and crossing the legs toward rather than away. The remaining signals are
rapport building and are the ones we find most obvious, although as they relate to interest, aren’t as
significant. These signals include verbal contact and are less significant because by this time we usually
know things are going well, and that interest is present. Echoing and mirroring is also part of sexual
body language and is known within this category as “the nonverbal mating dance.” Now that we have
cues in loose categories, we can look at them in more detail.