The Ultimate Body Language Book

at a game of solitary on her computer while she talks with her mom on the phone. Without pause the
dialogue continues, whereas when I speak to my brother on the phone, and he’s watching television, the
line practically goes dead! Body language requires a lot of focus and attention and women have much
more mind to draw on to analyze it. Women seem therefore more naturally attuned to reading body
language subconsciously, but that doesn’t mean it can’t easily be learned as is the case with my wife
and I. By far, I am more aware of body language, due in large part to the amount of research I have
done. My experience makes up for what I lack in brain power!
Women have a much wider visual field then men. That is, they can see further out on the periphery
while still fixated on a central point. This is why women are so much better at finding things in the
cupboard or in a drawer. Men’s eyes have pin point or tunnel vision and must look from one object to
another eliminating them in sequence just to find what they need whereas women can see the whole
picture all at once and identify the object needed. This partially explains why men find it so frustrating
to have their things moved about the house when women tidy up. Men simply can not find them if they
are relocated, but it’s not as if we don’t appreciate the effort! Conversely, women have difficulty
pointing out and following moving objects such as animal in the woods or baseballs. With training
however, both can become better at each task, the point is that men and women are inherently different,
acknowledging our deficiencies just makes us each easier to live with! Having a better peripheral
vision also explains why women don’t ever seem to stare at the men’s “junk” whereas men drop their
gaze routinely to check women out. Women do check out other men, they just don’t get caught!
Chapter 2 – The Basics Of Understanding Body Language
Are Men Bad Readers Of Body Language?
Many beliefs exist about the sexes. Men are thought to be task and goal oriented, more aggressive,
dominant and loud when they communicate. Women are thought to be emotional, gentle and sensitive.
Women are also thought to talk more and also to be more aware of others’ feelings. But how much of
these beliefs are accurate is up for debate. When we talk about reading people and intuition, we are
really talking about someone’s ability to read someone’s body language. It can also be called audience
awareness or perceptivity and can relate to a speaker or listener.
The research shows us that some of preconceptions are in fact correct but this dismisses a huge
variable. That variable is our massive ability to learn. Men reading this book will have a vastly superior
ability to read others when compared to women who have no schooling whatsoever in body language.
Research has shown that men lack empathy for others and disregard other’s emotions. Is this a simple
case of being lazy or are there real notable differences? A second research experiment found that
homosexual men and male nurses were also more in-tune with reading others, and that this might
actually be related to differences in the brain. However, not all, or even most male nurses would be
presumed to be homosexual so obviously there are variation in the ability of men to read emotions.