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olfactory sensing organs between bites of food. The wine literally changes the<br />
environment in our mouths so that each bite will taste just as savory as the first. Recurrent<br />
inhibition is what underlies the tendency to cease paying attention to static, unchanging<br />
aspects of our environment. It is interesting to speculate about how this neurological<br />
mechanism might affect our experience of the world on a broader scale. Noam Chonr<br />
sky (see Chapter Ill), quoting Vikhn . Shklovskij, writes:<br />
"People living at the seashore grow so accustomed to the murmur of the waves<br />
that they never hear it. By the same token, we scarcely ever hear the words<br />
which we utter.... We look at each other, but we do not see each other any<br />
more. Our perception of the world has withered away; what has remained is<br />
mere recognition." (p. 24-25)<br />
Our sensory systems provide us with very pleasant experiences in many ways. Movies,<br />
which are actually only rapidly flashed "still" pictures, give us the illusion of motion. We<br />
can also experience strong emotional feelings while sitting in a theater watching and<br />
listening to a film. It is important to understand that these same abilities, these<br />
neurological processes which enable us to have pleasant experiences, also operate at<br />
times to give us pain by limiting our perceptions and our ability to adequately respond to<br />
our environment.<br />
As the discussion of these processes continues, I hope to demonstrate that there are<br />
consistencies in how people experience the world and how they create their models of<br />
what they experience. These consistencies can assist us in more effectively<br />
communicating with them. By enabling us to predict and influence behavior, observing<br />
and utilizing these consistencies can help us assist the people we live and work with in<br />
making different choices about how to feel and how to respond, choices which will<br />
enhance a positive and enriched perception of the world.<br />
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figure 1 - I shows the first step in the formulation of our nu'dels of the world. Raw<br />
experience is filtered through our sensory organs (neurological constraints). The<br />
experience is "tr ansformed" into a neurological model including four basic Pot rameters:<br />
vision, feeling, sound, and smell and taste. he!°wmK the model proposed by Bandler<br />
and Grinder,"<br />
se are labeled, respectively, V for vision, K for feelings, A<br />
19<br />
16<br />
There are several ways you can "join" a person at his own model of the world. These will<br />
be covered in following sections and chapters. As you acknowledge an individual's model<br />
of the world by joining him with your language and with other behaviors that let him<br />
know that you understand, you pave the way for highly effective and influential<br />
communication to occur. This does not mean that you accept his model as your own, but<br />
rather that you instill the trust and rapport so important in close or intimate relationships<br />
and create the ideal climate for positive growth and change.<br />
Constraints on the Model<br />
the menu like we often treat our own models of the world - as if it actually is reality - we<br />
would begin to eat the menu! As Bateson points out, "Expectably, communicating<br />
organisms... will mistake map for territory. . . ." (p. 402) <strong>To</strong> take the metaphor a step<br />
further, sometimes we are surprised by the food we have ordered from the menu. When it