The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F_ck

fuckwads taking our fucks out on everyone, including
ourselves.
The goal here is to look at which problem is better.
Because after all, as Disappointment Panda said, life’s
problems are endless.
My friend’s brother, what are his options?
A. Continue causing drama and friction within the family,
complicating what should otherwise be a happy
moment, and damage the trust and respect he has
with his sister, all because he has a hunch (some might
call it an intuition) that this guy is bad for her.
B. Mistrust his own ability to determine what’s right or
wrong for his sister’s life and remain humble, trust her
ability to make her own decisions, and even if he
doesn’t, live with the results out of his love and respect
for her.
Most people choose option A. That’s because option A is
the easier path. It requires little thought, no secondguessing,
and zero tolerance of decisions other people make
that you don’t like.
It also creates the most misery for everyone involved.
It’s option B that sustains healthy and happy
relationships built on trust and respect. It’s option B that
forces people to remain humble and admit ignorance. It’s
option B that allows people to grow beyond their insecurities
and recognize situations where they’re being impulsive or
unfair or selfish.
But option B is hard and painful, so most people don’t
choose it.
My friend’s brother, in protesting her engagement,
entered into an imaginary battle with himself. Sure, he
believed he was trying to protect his sister, but as we’ve
seen, beliefs are arbitrary; worse yet, they’re often made up
after the fact to justify whatever values and metrics we’ve