The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F_ck

boundaries understand that a healthy relationship is not
about controlling one another’s emotions, but rather about
each partner supporting the other in their individual growth
and in solving their own problems.
It’s not about giving a fuck about everything your partner
gives a fuck about; it’s about giving a fuck about your
partner regardless of the fucks he or she gives. That’s
unconditional love, baby.
How to Build Trust
My wife is one of those women who spend a lot of time in
front of the mirror. She loves to look amazing, and I love for
her to look amazing too (obviously).
Nights before we go out, she comes out of the bathroom
after an hour-long makeup/hair/clothes/whatever-women-doin-there
session and asks me how she looks. She’s usually
gorgeous. Every once in a while, though, she looks bad.
Maybe she tried to do something new with her hair, or
decided to wear a pair of boots that some flamboyant
fashion designer from Milan thought were avant-garde.
Whatever the reason—it just doesn’t work.
When I tell her this, she usually gets pissed off. As she
marches back into the closet or the bathroom to redo
everything and make us thirty minutes late, she spouts a
bunch of four-letter words and sometimes even slings a few
of them in my direction.
Men stereotypically lie in this situation to make their
girlfriends/wives happy. But I don’t. Why? Because honesty
in my relationship is more important to me than feeling
good all the time. The last person I should ever have to
censor myself with is the woman I love.
Fortunately, I’m married to a woman who agrees and is
willing to hear my uncensored thoughts. She calls me out on
my bullshit too, of course, which is one of the most
important traits she offers me as a partner. Sure, my ego