The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F_ck
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Muhammad, Napoleon, and Shakespeare are just as
powerful today as when those men lived, if not more so.
And that’s the whole point. Whether it be through
mastering an art form, conquering a new land, gaining
great riches, or simply having a large and loving family
that will live on for generations, all the meaning in our
life is shaped by this innate desire to never truly die.
Religion, politics, sports, art, and technological
innovation are the result of people’s immortality projects.
Becker argues that wars and revolutions and mass murder
occur when one group of people’s immortality projects rub
up against another group’s. Centuries of oppression and the
bloodshed of millions have been justified as the defense of
one group’s immortality project against another’s.
But, when our immortality projects fail, when the
meaning is lost, when the prospect of our conceptual self
outliving our physical self no longer seems possible or likely,
death terror—that horrible, depressing anxiety—creeps back
into our mind. Trauma can cause this, as can shame and
social ridicule. As can, as Becker points out, mental illness.
If you haven’t figured it out yet, our immortality projects
are our values. They are the barometers of meaning and
worth in our life. And when our values fail, so do we,
psychologically speaking. What Becker is saying, in essence,
is that we’re all driven by fear to give way too many fucks
about something, because giving a fuck about something is
the only thing that distracts us from the reality and
inevitability of our own death. And to truly not give a single
fuck is to achieve a quasi-spiritual state of embracing the
impermanence of one’s own existence. In that state, one is
far less likely to get caught up in various forms of
entitlement.
Becker later came to a startling realization on his
deathbed: that people’s immortality projects were actually
the problem, not the solution; that rather than attempting to