RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE

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They looked at each other, a deep laugh at the
bottom of their eyes, and he went to take her
again, wholesale, mad to revel in the inexhaustible
wealth of her, to bury himself in the depths of
her in an inexhaustible exploration, she all the
while revelling in that he revelled in her, tossed
all her secrets aside and plunged to that which
was secret to her as well, whilst she quivered
with fear and the last anguish of delight (pp.62-3).
In their union there is always present the sense of unawareness
and separateness.
And although it seems contradictory, they
remain themselves, forget their differences for the sake of
maintaining their love.
After all "What did it matter who they
were, whether they knew each other or not?" (p.63).
Tom and Lydia1s story changes at the moment that the woman
gets pregnant. Again they are separate. Lydia contains within
her one part of Tom, i.e., the child.
She, therefore, casts him
out. They start to fight. Here we can say that the marriage
resembles the Morels' marriage.
to contain himself..." (ibid).
Tom, like Walter, "had to learn
"And sometimes he got dr.unk...
He had to go out, to find company, to give himself away there"
(p.64).
His existence, during Lydia's pregnancy, means nothing
to her. She treats him almost like a servant. Here Lydia
differs from Mrs Morel who did what she could to exclude Walter
from her life. Walter could not turn to his children because the
mother set them against the father.
With Tom there is a
difference: Anna, Lydia's daughter, becomes Tom's motive for
life: "he turned to the little girl for her sympathy and her
love, he appealed with all his power to the small Anna. So soon
they were like lovers, father and child" (ibid).
When the first child is born, there is a split between the
couple, more on Tom's part than on the mother's.
The baby is a
boy.
Tom feels satisfied because it has confirmed his fatherhood,