emmanuel reynaud holy virility the social construction of masculinity

Man has a soft spot for the uniform of daddy, it satisfies him in
many and various ways: daddy knows and does what is best for
women, and at the same time he feathers his own nest. On the
material level, the activities which involve, amongst other
things, creating 'woman', and making woman understand what
they could be, generally also lead to an interesting combination
of work conditions, remuneration and prestige. But, even when
these professions ―ideologist, psychoanalyst, film director,
photographer, etc.― are not open to him, daddy always has the
possibility of appropriating a woman to attend to his needs,
those of his family and his property. On a more spiritual level,
realising his fantasies in a human being gives him a great sense
of satisfaction, even though his image can be disappointing: 'Oh
the despair of Pygmalion, who could have created a statue and
made only a woman!' [8]
Through the creation and possession of a personalised object
or a concept, man displays the symbol of his success: 'his
woman'. The connoisseur is able to recognise the artist's
hallmark, or the academic a well-polished theory, and the skilled
creator, the happy proprietor, is admired for his mastery and
envied for his comfort. But, in spite of all the advantages, man is
generally not content with the status of daddy; for he also has
'natural desires' which need satisfying, and, in any case, only
his penis can truly confirm his appropriation: at this point daddy
becomes rapist.
[The daddy and the rapist / 79]
Possessing the desired object
Man does not always wear the seemingly reassuring expression
of daddy. He has another less presentable side, the (badly)
hidden side of the penis: his so-called 'natural desires' which
will inevitably drive him to rape, or, to speak less crudely, to
fuck a woman without asking her consent. In fact, his attitude
has nothing much to do with nature, it serves above all to
disguise the simple fact that, when he wants to use a woman for
sexual purposes, man has little concern for her feelings; he only
takes into consideration his own desires and apprehensions
about the 'act'. If his fantasies and obsession with possession
drive him to appropriate a woman, it is only his fears, his
shyness, or his ethics which may hold him back and not a
woman's refusal― besides, when a woman says no, is she not
supposed to mean yes? When man makes a woman into the
object of desire, he is often prepared to go to any lengths in
order to 'possess' her sexually.