emmanuel reynaud holy virility the social construction of masculinity

sacrifice. But at the same time he is unaware that his condition
of proprietor, which enables him to satisfy a certain number of
needs, provides him with only very mediocre pleasures. In fact,
men have always complained about the paltriness of their
relations with women ―look at the floods of tears shed in
songs, poetry and pubs about Impossible Love which dies in
marriage or is fulfilled in death― they have wept a great deal
without ever realising that they were responsible for their own
misfortune. There is actually no love which is possible in a
relationship of appropriation, and there can be no question of a
human relationship between two people when one of them is
considered as an object. A man gets impoverished pleasure
from possessing a woman, a pleasure which bears no
comparison to that which two free individuals could experience
together.