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around. He arrived when I was fifteen. He had been with us for a while when my father<br />
arrived from bear-hunting. My mother told him that his future son-in-law was here. I<br />
don’t know how he reacted because he was not my biological father, but he smiled and<br />
happily replied that he would have an additional helper now.<br />
You didn’t even feel like touching the person at first, but eventually you got used<br />
to it. For that reason, I had to try and be happy about my future husband, even though<br />
just making eye contact with him was hard and there was nowhere to flee.<br />
I am not just talking about myself. I think that’s how couples got to be together. Not<br />
too long after I met him, by summer time, he was a really close friend. When [a man]<br />
was keen on getting married, [he was] not going to let you go. Even though you didn’t<br />
want to be touched in the first place, you eventually got used to it.<br />
The way I understood marriage back then, and I used to write about events, I<br />
considered ourselves married when we started to go together. We were approached by<br />
three different ministers who wanted to marry us, but I always refused. They said we<br />
had to be married in church to make it official, but God can see what’s happening and<br />
he was already our witness. I won my arguments and we still weren’t married in 1994.<br />
What do you mean when you say that they would get used to it?<br />
Elisapee: As I said earlier, you didn’t feel like touching your new spouse at first and it<br />
was impossible when you had never touched a man before. From the way he talked to<br />
you, followed you around, you eventually got used to being around him. They would<br />
not try to hold our hands. We did as much as we could to avoid sexual contact. Because<br />
I was intimidated by my parents, I didn’t try to pick something up and hit him with it.<br />
Some were like that?<br />
Elisapee: Yes, I was intimidated by my parents. Even though I tried to resist, I wasn’t<br />
permitted to do this too much. I didn’t want a husband back then, but I ended up having<br />
a wonderful husband. It was because I wanted to be a child longer. It must be<br />
embarrassing for you to listen to this.<br />
Was the husband that was arranged for you already known when<br />
your mother was pregnant with you?<br />
Elisapee: No, it was probably arranged when we were really small. Our parents got<br />
together. Both myself and my future husband were chubby little babies, so then they<br />
decided we would be man and wife.<br />
18 <strong>Introduction</strong> to the Oral Traditions