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Raquel Moscarelli - Sidelined
more abrupt occurs. It is at that point that our
courage and our questioning can set us on the
path to freedom.
To further this process, I have trademarked
a five-step program called “Living Your
Birthmark.” It begins with recognizing that a
“received identity” is actually an injury to our
true self – our Birthmark. This injury places a
person on the sidelines. While sidelined, they
wait and watch others live their lives.
What we as individuals decide about our future
while on these sidelines is crucial however,
because a fateful crossroads awaits us. At
that point, we either choose to follow an exit
strategy or we decide to “live our birthmark”
via a path marked by miracles of all sizes.
If we choose the latter, we become “survivors”
worthy of the word. Our lives may not look like
what we thought they would, but they can feel
right and be right.
Let’s look at each of these stages individually:
Injury
We all know people who have received serious
injuries in life, but why are some individuals
able to embrace crisis as an opportunity while
others succumb to self-pity? This question lies
at the heart of “Living Your Birthmark.” These
injuries are not necessarily physical disabilities;
more frequently the “injury” is to one’s received
identity or self-esteem. When my father asked
my mother for a divorce, for example, it started
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