Backbiting - Islamic School System - Dawat-e-Islami

َExamples of Backbiting 3157. My father-in-law did not pay any particular attention to me.8. They did not even say to me, ‘Have some more food.’9. The bride’s family has not invited us for several days now. Is this the way to act?10. They are stingy to the bone.11. They only sent us a small pot full of food; they should have sent us a cauldron.12. Mother-in-law is very thin-skinned.13. They sent us only one box of mangoes,14. And the mangoes were not of a good quality.15. It was agreed that they would give a watch for the older brother,16. A dress for the sister and17. Only one sheet for the mother. They gave us all that, but everything they gave wereof inferior quality no branded items, etc. etc.It would not be incorrect to call some of the instances of backbiting as ‘obstinacy’ becausethe aforesaid things, which are being demanded, also seem to contain the evil of bribery.For example, demanding that the brother and father of the bride’s groom should be givensuch-and-such gifts, then and only then we would agree to this marriage, this is clearbribery. If the girl’s family do not give gifts, then the girl is taunted with sarcastic remarks,therefore the boy’s family has to be given boxes of mangoes and pots full of food.My master, A’lā Ḥaḍrat, Imām-e-Aĥl-e-Sunnat, Maulānā, Ash-Shāĥ Imām Aḥmad RazāKhān حمْ‏ ‏ٰن said, ‘What is prevalent amongst some communities is a trend that theydo not agree to a wedding proposal for their daughter or sister until they have receivedsome gifts for themselves — this falls under bribery. At times the guardian of the girl agreesto the proposal but does not let the girl go to the husband until he receives somethingfor himself — this is also bribery.’ (Fatāwā Razawiyyaĥ, vol. 12, pp. 257) Remember! Bribery isstrictly forbidden and leads to Hell. Thus, it is narrated in a Ḥadīš:ا‏ ااG ‏رِ‏ رَّ‏ لَيْهِ‏ رَحمْ‏ ‏َةُ‏ ال عَ‏kِµَِ ُ ۡ ª ۡ ِ وَا‏ ۡ One who gives and the one, who accepts the bribe, are both dwellers of Hell.(Al-Mu’jam-ul-Awsaṭ liṭ-Ṭabarānī, vol. 1, pp. 550, Ḥadīš 2026)