InFluential_Magazine_March_April_2017
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EXCLUSIVE FEATURE<br />
SPRING CLEANING ISN’T ONLY<br />
MEANT FOR YOUR CLOSET.<br />
IN FACT, MOST OF THE TIME<br />
WE FORGET THE MOST<br />
IMPORTANT INVENTORY IS<br />
THE ONE WE NEED TO TAKE<br />
OF OUR LIFE, AND THE PEOPLE<br />
WE CONSIDER OUR FRIENDS<br />
AND LOVED ONES.<br />
A<br />
re your friends supportive of you? Are they<br />
a positive influence in your life? There’s a<br />
saying “you are the five people you spend the most time<br />
with”. Are you happy with that picture? Or, is it time for<br />
a change? What about your significant other? Are you<br />
still stuck in a relationship going nowhere? Is he / she<br />
making promises only to break them? It might be time<br />
to pull the plug on those toxic relationships that bring<br />
you down and no longer make you happy.<br />
Sometimes we become so used to being in an<br />
unhealthy relationship we think toxic patterns are the<br />
norm. Remind yourself you are worthy of a healthy<br />
relationship with someone who appreciates you. Stop<br />
making excuses for him / her thinking they’ll change.<br />
People can only change for a short period of time.<br />
They typically always go back to who they are. Start to<br />
break free from this toxic pattern.<br />
Some of Us Need to Break Free<br />
in Stages and That’s Ok.<br />
Change doesn’t happen overnight unless, of course,<br />
the relationship is abusive; then cut him / her loose<br />
NOW. There is NEVER any excuse for violence, or<br />
emotional abuse. Start taking steps to distance<br />
yourself from the relationship and regain your strength.<br />
Prepare yourself emotionally and mentally that it will<br />
be hard for a while, but in the end you open yourself<br />
up to something better. Only when you’re free from<br />
negativity can positivity enter your life.<br />
Take Your Mind Off.<br />
Surround yourself with people who love and care<br />
about you. Chances are they were telling you for a<br />
long time to break free of this toxic relationship. They’ll<br />
remind you of what a healthy relationship looks like<br />
and to love yourself again.<br />
Good Days and Bad Days.<br />
You’ll have good and bad days, and your loved ones,<br />
or your true friends can help get you through those<br />
down days.<br />
Although the relationship was toxic, you’re so<br />
accustomed to being with this person you might even<br />
miss certain things about them. Do not confuse your<br />
loneliness with being by yourself. It’ll feel new and scary<br />
to be on your own. That is a normal feeling. In time<br />
you’ll thank yourself for having loved yourself enough<br />
to break free. New people will enter your life. Whatever<br />
you do, do not jump into another relationship right<br />
away. Practice self-love and healing.<br />
Start Blooming Again<br />
Once you break free of your toxic relationship you’ll start<br />
seeing other areas of your life start blooming as well.<br />
It’ll affect your friendships in a positive way and you’ll<br />
start being more productive at work. You’ll start to feel<br />
a weight lifted off your chest. You’ll feel free and realize<br />
how beautiful life can be without the constant drama<br />
and negativity.<br />
Try to do something positive everyday that’ll make<br />
you feel good about yourself and to get your selfesteem<br />
back. This is the time to be selfish and take care<br />
of you. The energy you put out into the world comes<br />
back. Make it positive. Your future self will thank you. As<br />
the saying goes, “When you stop chasing losers, it gives<br />
prince charming a chance to catch up to you”. l<br />
144 FLUENTIAL MARCH / APRIL <strong>2017</strong>
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