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INSTITUTIONALIZED CHILD CARE IN URBAN SOUTH AFRICA

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“My dad is still alive,” Xolani informed me during our conversation. “He lives over<br />

in Alexandra and I see him more often now. To be honest with you, I used to have a lot<br />

more resentment towards him. It’s still hard for me to have a good relationship with him,<br />

but I’m working on that now.” I mentioned that this was something I could sympathize<br />

with as a part of getting older, and he nodded in agreement. “Yes, you realize they won’t<br />

be around forever.” For kids to hold some degree of resentment for absent or nonproviding<br />

fathers was fairly common, but for one to be as aware, proactive, and verbally<br />

open about it as Xolani was particularly rare.<br />

Xolani’s experience reflected a common phenomenon in various parts of South<br />

African society, that of paternal abandonment. The rate at which fathers assumed no<br />

responsibility for their biological children or abandoned the child and its mother shortly<br />

after birth was particularly high. “In South Africa, it’s extremely common,” confirmed<br />

Pastor Mike. “People become sexually active early and many do not take very many<br />

precautions. This results in teen pregnancies and unexpected pregnancies becoming quite<br />

common,” he added before continuing to explain how the center would have to work with<br />

other organizations in the event of teen pregnancies. “You have a lot of these children<br />

having no idea who their father even is, or where he’s gone.”<br />

This was again evident when right after my conversation with Pastor Mike, I spoke<br />

to Phumeza and Nando, two siblings who were originally a set of four before their two<br />

oldest brothers moved out of the center. Their situation reflected a common scenario<br />

where they were placed in the center after their mom had passed away. Another child<br />

who was within earshot tried to aid their recollection. “Your dad couldn’t afford to take<br />

care of you?” “Ah,” responded Nando, “I have no idea where my father is.”<br />

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