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However, not all experiences with disclosure are bad. There are also happy stories whenHIV status is disclosed.“I did not immediately come back and tell my parents. It took me oneyear to prepare that…before I actually said anything about my status. Iguess they, they can….they can accept. Cause it took me one yeartogether with my fiancée to prepare them, you know, we kind of educatethem, exposing them to right information. My relationship with them, Ithink much better compared to before. Friends they do not know”(Male, 40yrs, Upper secondary education)“Doktor bagi letter, dia beritahu saya. Doktor tak beritau family. Sayasendiri beritahu mak bapak. My family all know. Sayang. Bila kena sakit,lebih sayang”(“Doctor gave letter, he/she informed me. Doctor didn’t tell family. I toldmy parents by myself. My family all know. Loving/caring. When [I] fallsick, more loving/caring”)(Female, 36yrs, Lower secondary education, SW)Some chose not to disclose their HIV status for fear of shame, neglect or disown by thefamily and also the lack of courage to disclose.“I’m scared. My family don’t know that I have. I’m scared that they willhate me. Nobody knows. My friends also don’t know”(Female, 40yrs, Lower secondary education, SW)“Saya punya mak bapak tak nak bagi tau dia orang. Sampai sekarangadik-beradik tak tau. Kawan saya tak tau. Sebab rasa malu pun ada”(“I don’t want to let my parents know. Until now, my siblings don’t know.My friends don’t know. Because feel ashamed”)(Female, 22yrs, Lower secondary education, SW)“Saya berfikiran keluarga, saya berfikiran saya, dan saya berfikir kawankawansaya. Macam-macam saya fikir, tapi almost saya fikirkan keluargasaya. Saya tak berani nak bagi tahu keluarga saya. Sebab apa, keluargasaya ini dari kampong dan tak tahu apa-apa tentang benda-benda inisemua. May be satu hari nanti saya akan bagi tahu tapi now saya takyakin. Kita tak boleh terus tiba-tiba saya ada penyakit macam ini”(“I thought of my family, myself and my friends. I ponder on all sorts ofthings, but mostly I think of my family. I don’t dare to let my familyknow. Because my family came from rural area and do not know anythingabout this things. Maybe one day I will let (them) know but now i’m notconfident. We can’t suddenly (tell) that I have this illness”)(Transgender, 40yrs, Lower secondary education, SW)52