The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
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SPINSTERHOOD AND CELIBACY<br />
therefore divorcing sex entirely from the context of loving<br />
relationships, did not look at all suited to what they saw as the<br />
interests of women:<br />
I do not think that to make our morality on a plane with<br />
men’s would improve our position, or that anything but a<br />
lasting tie would satisfy a woman. When she marries she<br />
gives so much more than a man that she must have a hold<br />
on him…. As for being merely the instrument of pleasure, a<br />
woman’s desire is, in general, no mean second to a man’s. 31<br />
‘Cailin Dhu’, the writer of the above letter, in fact believed that<br />
women were naturally monogamous whilst men were<br />
polygamous. <strong>The</strong> very practical reasons lying behind women’s<br />
need for lasting ties, such as the fact that they bore children <strong>and</strong><br />
were not in a position to earn a reasonable living, would suggest<br />
that women’s ‘monogamy’ was socially rather than naturally<br />
constructed.<br />
One correspondent, with great foresight, attributed the<br />
propounding of a ‘new morality’ to the fact that men feared<br />
that when women got the vote, their sex freedom under the<br />
double st<strong>and</strong>ard might come to an end. <strong>The</strong> solution was to<br />
encourage women to something called sex freedom, however<br />
illusory, so that the single st<strong>and</strong>ard that came into being would<br />
be that which men wanted <strong>and</strong> not the alarming vision being<br />
propounded by most feminists:<br />
It is noteworthy how anxious men are to safeguard their<br />
incontinence in the coming age of the Freewoman. <strong>The</strong>y are<br />
expecting trouble, as your columns show, <strong>and</strong> by paying<br />
heed to them, Freewoman will be leaving the frying-pan for<br />
the fire. 32<br />
She was quite right. <strong>The</strong>re was no question of an equal st<strong>and</strong>ard<br />
of sexual morality in a society in which the sexes were not<br />
equal. When it looked as if the feminists might carry out their<br />
threat to enforce chastity on men, a new code of sexual morality<br />
developed which ensured that men retained the advantage. Some<br />
feminists suggested that ‘sex freedom’ gave man more advantges<br />
even than they had enjoyed under the double st<strong>and</strong>ard. <strong>The</strong>re is<br />
no doubt that in any system of free enterprise, including a sexual<br />
one, those with the greatest material advantages benefit most<br />
from the system <strong>and</strong> often at the expense of those who are not<br />
so advantaged. But in 1911, though they did not know it, the<br />
celibates were swimming against the tide.<br />
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