The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
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ANTIFEMINISM AND SEX REFORM<br />
Ellis carried his idea of innate differences straight into the<br />
realm of sexual behaviour, saying that man was sexually active<br />
<strong>and</strong> woman passive. His explanation of the form taken by male/<br />
female sexual relations is an evolutionary one rather than a<br />
strictly biological one. He writes that the courtship behaviour<br />
of early humans, like that of animals <strong>and</strong> birds, arose from the<br />
needs of reproduction. Ellis explained that contemporary sexual<br />
relations were simply a continuation of this process:<br />
the primary part of the female in courtship is the playful, yet<br />
serious, assumption of the role of a hunted animal who lures<br />
on the pursuer, not with the object of escaping, but with the<br />
object of being finally caught… [the male] will display his<br />
energy <strong>and</strong> skill to capture the female or to arouse in her an<br />
emotional condition which leads her to surrender herself to<br />
him, this process at the same time heightening his own<br />
excitement. 9<br />
Ellis has been seen as a sexual enlightener because he asserted<br />
not merely woman’s capacity, but also her right to sexual<br />
pleasure. 10 But the form of pleasure which woman was to recieve<br />
was strictly circumscribed. In courtship she must be hunted,<br />
must be captured <strong>and</strong> surrender. In sexual activity itself she<br />
must be entirely passive. <strong>The</strong> male was to practise foreplay<br />
upon her until she was aroused <strong>and</strong> then sexual intercourse was<br />
to take place: ‘the woman’s part is, even biologically, on the<br />
surface the more passive part. She is, on the physical side,<br />
inevitably the instrument in love; it must be his h<strong>and</strong> <strong>and</strong> his<br />
bow which evoke the music.’ 11<br />
<strong>The</strong> notion of foreplay, called by Ellis the ‘art of love’, was<br />
to provide the rationale for twentieth-century sex advice<br />
literature. Behind it lies the idea that women are rather slow<br />
<strong>and</strong> difficult in terms of sexual arousal, <strong>and</strong> that complex<br />
techniques had to be mastered by the man. <strong>The</strong>se techniques,<br />
for preparing the woman for the man’s preferred sex practice of<br />
sexual intercourse, are still the stuff of contemporary sex<br />
manuals. In Ellis’s case it is particularly surprising that he should<br />
have laid such great stress on sexual intercourse being the main<br />
event in sexual interaction since he seems to have found that<br />
particular practice very difficult, if not impossible, himself. His<br />
preference was urolagnia, i.e. gaining pleasure from watching<br />
a woman urinate as an end in itself. His sexual preference is<br />
clear from his autobiography. 12 He wrote a eulogy to urolagnia<br />
in poetic form which contains the immortal lines:<br />
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