The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
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THE INVENTION OF THE FRIGID WOMAN<br />
<strong>The</strong> reader could be forgiven for thinking that it was Van de<br />
Velde rather than woman’s ‘intuitive’ feelings that were telling<br />
her to submit. Van de Velde’s main concern in all his work was<br />
the preservation of marriage <strong>and</strong> the elimination of that<br />
dangerous threat to marriage, ‘hostility’. <strong>The</strong> hostility seems to<br />
have been caused by women’s refusal to submit to their husb<strong>and</strong>s.<br />
He writes that woman because of her ‘emotional temperament’:<br />
desires either power or subjection. She desires submission<br />
with her whole soul <strong>and</strong> being, but seeks to gain power. She,<br />
herself, sooner or later, (usually, however, from the very first)<br />
begins the struggle for power, <strong>and</strong>, if she wins the victory,<br />
she loses the very thing that she most needs, the protection<br />
<strong>and</strong> support of the man. 58<br />
Though it may seem hard to underst<strong>and</strong> how to marry these<br />
contradictions, Van de Velde none the less found some logic in<br />
this <strong>and</strong> went on to say that there was only one possible outcome<br />
of the struggle. <strong>The</strong> woman can only win by losing, ‘the woman<br />
who wins the game of the struggle for power, loses. Only if the<br />
man carries off the prize can both the husb<strong>and</strong> <strong>and</strong> wife win. If<br />
the woman wins, then both lose.’ 59 This very strange language<br />
which Van de Velde uses, in which words mean their opposites,<br />
at first sight a strange language for a scientist to use, is actually<br />
the language of sado-masochism. Men’s pornographic literature<br />
of sado-masochism is full of women who choose to be conquered<br />
<strong>and</strong> win by losing, women for whom only slavery is freedom<br />
<strong>and</strong> for whom only being bound is being really ‘free’. 60 Van de<br />
Velde was simply trying to extend the rules of the pornographic<br />
game into everyday sexual life, <strong>and</strong> discovering a disquieting<br />
amount of resistance in the women playmates. In sadomasochistic<br />
pornography women consent to their submission<br />
<strong>and</strong> are said to win by losing in order that the obvious cruelty<br />
inflicted upon them should not look too unfair <strong>and</strong> appear to be<br />
what the women really want.<br />
Weith Knudsen was also greatly exercised by the problem of<br />
women’s frigidity. He also saw woman’s subjection to be<br />
necessary to her sexual pleasure, <strong>and</strong> was annoyed that feminism<br />
seemed to be interfering with women’s natural inclination to<br />
submit:<br />
It is therefore only to be expected that a mental atmosphere<br />
like that of present-day Feminism, which in a number of<br />
women actually precludes the psychical submission,<br />
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