The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
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WOMEN’S FRIENDSHIPS AND LESBIANISM<br />
<strong>The</strong> feminist historians who have been uncovering these<br />
relationships have assumed that they were devoid of genital<br />
sexual expression on the grounds that the repression of women’s<br />
genital sexuality in the nineteenth century would have made<br />
spontaneous genital expression unlikely. Whether or not these<br />
women expressed themselves genitally there is no doubt that<br />
physical excitement <strong>and</strong> eroticism played an important part in<br />
their love. This is clear from the way Sophia Jex-Blake describes<br />
her relationship with Octavia Hill in the following quotation<br />
from her diary of 1860. <strong>The</strong> two women are negotiating the<br />
spending of a holiday together:<br />
Told Octa about Wales,—sitting in her room on the table,<br />
my heart beating like a hammer. That Carry [Sophia’s sister]<br />
wanted to go to Wales <strong>and</strong> I too, <strong>and</strong> most convenient about<br />
the beginning of July, so… ‘Put off my visit?’ said Octa.<br />
‘No, I was just going to say…if you wish to see anything of<br />
me, you must come too, I think <strong>and</strong> not put off the mountains<br />
until heaven.’ She sunk her head on my lap silently, raised it<br />
in tears, <strong>and</strong> then such a kiss. 5<br />
It is not a platonic peck on the cheek which is being described<br />
here. On the grounds of the absence of genital contact alone,<br />
some contemporary feminist writers have sought to establish a<br />
clear distinction between these passionate friendships, even in<br />
the case of spinsters like Jex-Blake <strong>and</strong> Hill who were in<br />
passionate friendships with women all their lives, <strong>and</strong><br />
‘lesbianism’. 6 Such a distinction is very difficult to draw. <strong>The</strong><br />
conventions which govern the expression of erotic love may<br />
change, but the emotions <strong>and</strong> the physical excitement may have<br />
felt the same.<br />
Today intense emotional <strong>and</strong> sensual interaction between<br />
women friends in the West is not seen as socially acceptable.<br />
Faderman illustrates this change with an experiment which was<br />
carried out at Palo Alto High School in 1973:<br />
For three weeks the girls behaved on campus as all romantic<br />
friends did in the previous century: <strong>The</strong>y held h<strong>and</strong>s often on<br />
campus walks, they sat with their arms around each other,<br />
<strong>and</strong> they exchanged kisses on the cheek when classes ended.<br />
<strong>The</strong>y expressly did not intend to give the impression that<br />
their feelings were sexual. <strong>The</strong>y touched each other only as<br />
close, affectionate friends would. But despite their intentions,<br />
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