The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
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ANTIFEMINISM AND SEX REFORM<br />
My lady once leapt sudden from the bed,<br />
Whereon she naked lay beside my heart,<br />
And stood with perfect poise, straight legs apart,<br />
And then from clustered hair of brownish red<br />
A wondrous fountain curve, all shyness fled,<br />
Arched like a liquid rainbow in the air,<br />
She cares not, she, what other women care,<br />
But gazed as it fell <strong>and</strong> faltered <strong>and</strong> was shed. 13<br />
Ellis pronounced that aggression was an innate part of sexuality.<br />
This is an idea that dies hard. It is a crucial motif of that bible<br />
of the most recent wave of the ‘sexual revolution’, Alex Comfort’s<br />
Joy of Sex (1973). Comfort quotes Ellis in the ‘bondage’ section<br />
of the book which seeks to reassure women that being tied up<br />
<strong>and</strong> gagged for a man’s sexual pleasure is a normal enjoyable<br />
part of sexual interaction: ‘Any restraint upon muscular <strong>and</strong><br />
emotional activity generally’, wrote Havelock Ellis, ‘tends to<br />
heighten the state of sexual excitement.’ 14 Ellis stated that it<br />
was almost or quite normal for men to take pleasure in inflicting<br />
pain upon women, <strong>and</strong> ‘certainly normal’ for women to delight<br />
in experiencing pain:<br />
While in men it is possible to trace a tendency to inflict pain,<br />
or the simulacrum of pain, on the women they love, it is still<br />
easier to trace in women a delight in experiencing physical<br />
pain when inflicted by a lover, <strong>and</strong> an eagerness to accept<br />
submission to his will. Such a tendency is certainly normal. 15<br />
<strong>The</strong> examples he gave to support the idea that women enjoyed<br />
receiving pain included cases of women enjoying, according to<br />
Ellis, being battered by their husb<strong>and</strong>s in Russia, Hungary,<br />
amongst the Indians of South America <strong>and</strong> in the East End of<br />
London, along with cases of French prostitutes who ‘enjoyed’<br />
being beaten up by their pimps.<br />
Ellis’s conclusions did not go unchallenged. He explained<br />
that he was able to write in such detail about women’s feelings<br />
because so many women were in correspondence with him telling<br />
him precisely what they felt. <strong>The</strong> women who wrote to him<br />
were representative of women in general, he said, unlike the<br />
women who wrote books, who were not. He quotes copiously<br />
from his women correspondents <strong>and</strong> on one occasion from one<br />
who plainly disagreed. She admitted to masochistic fantasies<br />
but asserted that the idea of pain was very different from its<br />
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