The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
The Spinster and Her Enemies - Feminish
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CONTINENCE AND PSYCHIC LOVE<br />
birth control as wrong. We know well that it would open the<br />
way to dem<strong>and</strong>s from men that would amount to a new tyranny.<br />
We do not want more tyrannies, but more practical love.’ 24<br />
To modern ears the words ‘free love’ are likely to conjure up<br />
an image of casual promiscuity. In the 1890s a body of feminists<br />
who were rejecting marriage <strong>and</strong> entering into what they called<br />
‘free love’ unions with men meant something very different. <strong>The</strong>se<br />
women were as enthusiastic about continence <strong>and</strong> psychic love<br />
as any others in the women’s movement. <strong>The</strong> impetus towards<br />
‘free love’ came from an underst<strong>and</strong>ing that the marriage laws<br />
constrained women <strong>and</strong> subjected them to the power of their<br />
husb<strong>and</strong>s, particularly in respect of marital rape. ‘Free love’ seemed<br />
preferable because it could give them more power to control<br />
access to their own bodies, not because it allowed them to escape<br />
from lengthy monogamous unions. Mona Caird wrote of a new<br />
ideal of marriage which would suffer no interference from society<br />
or the law <strong>and</strong> which would be based on the full underst<strong>and</strong>ing<br />
that woman had an obvious right to ‘possess herself, body <strong>and</strong><br />
soul, to give or withhold herself, body <strong>and</strong> soul, exactly as she<br />
wills’. 25 Arabella Dennehy, writing of the ‘Women of the Future’<br />
in the Westminster Review, expressed her reasons for choosing<br />
‘free love’ in much the same way:<br />
Is woman to remain the physical <strong>and</strong> moral slave of man, or<br />
is she to determine her own future? Is marriage a mere piece<br />
of social mechanism for subjugating women <strong>and</strong> allowing<br />
men to gratify their basest desires while outwardly<br />
conforming to conventional regulations? If so, then true<br />
morality would lead to this inevitable result—abolish<br />
marriage, establish free union in which each sex would have<br />
an equal voice, <strong>and</strong> make love the only law regulating the<br />
relationship of the sexes. 26<br />
Effie Johnson, while debating Marriage <strong>and</strong> Free Love in the<br />
same journal, plumped for ‘free love’ because ‘that most<br />
effectively leads to the goal towards which both Evolution <strong>and</strong><br />
Progress press—viz, Spiritually’. 27 Johnson’s aim was similar<br />
to Wolstenholme Elmy’s. It was ‘spiritual love which is the<br />
apex of all material evolution, the flower which aeons of slowly<br />
developing animal organisms at length bear.’ Johnson was<br />
extremely scathing about the current form of marriage, which<br />
after the many forms taken throughout history, had evolved<br />
into ‘that terrible growth, prostitution, linked with a miscalled<br />
Monogamy, which admits a one-sided licentiousness under<br />
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