2011 - Talk Birth

title inspired by[3] Literary Mama.
1. http://summerdoula.wordpress.com/
2. file://localhost/mnt/ext/blogbooker/tmp/
3. http://www.literarymama.com/
talkbirth (2011-06-11 13:12:29)
I’m glad it spoke to you, Emilia! (funny, too, since that is exactly what the post is about!) I’d like to suggest that
maybe there is another option between ”not accomplishing” and ”ditching my kids”–I feel like after a LOT of work
and trying, I’ve found a balance in my own life between ”personing” and ”mothering.” It is possible to mother well
AND also do some other things that feed your soul. It doesn’t have to be an either/or arrangement. And, we don’t
do our kids any favors by not pursuing some of our own passions when they can watch and observe us being vibrant,
active, complex, complete human beings (not saying that it isn’t ”complete” to be a SAHM, but that if you want
to pursue some other projects, kids learn good things from watching that happen! I used to feel like I was going to
die–metaphorically speaking...like my soul was getting squashed. I don’t feel that way anymore (and I still spend 90
% of every week with my kids!).
Lucy@dreamingaloud.net (2011-06-13 03:51:55)
Wow a friend just forwarded this to me by email - I love your voice, love your honesty. I was there too. With each
of my three. I can totally relate. Especially as I am a writer mama too... Well done you! Do stop by and visit me
at Dreaming Aloud for honest mama reflections, including my latest v popular post - The White heat of mama anger
http://dreamingaloudnet.blogspot.com/2011/06/white-heat-of-mama-ange r.html
Sheridan (2011-06-13 19:46:59)
I love this. It helps me see why I love to blog. It is a way to let my music get out too. What a wonderful analogy.
Emilia (2011-06-10 15:41:11)
I think I actually gasped out loud when I read this. It spoke to me in a deep way I think I’ve been needing for a
while, perhaps since Lyra’s birth. I felt good, really good, for quite a while after Mason’s birth. In the past couple of
months, that ”music dying” feeling has crept back in and increased. I’ve been having a hard time defining it, and an
equally hard time determining how to fix it. I grieve for the time I lost by having Lyra so young (not to mention the
guilt I have for giving her a ”bad” young mom). I worry I’m not accomplishing what I’m capable of doing, but I know
that ditching my kids and simply pursuing my ”own thing” would not be fulfilling. Just this morning (before reading
this post) I decided I HAVE to start a blog or two I’ve been considering for a while. I have to find some way to ”play
my music”, even if I’m not entirely sure what it sounds like yet. I wound up writing a lot more than I meant to here.
I guess all I really need to say is thank you for sharing this!
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