2011 - Talk Birth

[4]
Net of love in action!
And, then finally, bringing us back to International Women’s Day I have a final quote:
”I believe that these circles of women around us weave invisible nets of love that carry us when we’re weak
and sing with us when we’re strong.” –SARK, Succulent Wild Woman
As I noted in my [5]post for CfM this week, in honor of International Women’s Day—and every day—let us
celebrate our bodies, honor our mothers, and trust in the nets of love woven around us by a multitude of
remarkable, powerful, everyday women.
1. http://www.mothering.com/
2. http://www.internationalwomensday.com/
3. http://summerdoula.wordpress.com/2011/02/26/birth-as-a-feminist-issue/
4. http://talkbirth.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/135656_137106326350168_117518641642270_210194_8124920_o.jpg
5. http://cfmidwifery.blogspot.com/2011/03/international-womens-day.html
Ahmie (2011-03-12 14:51:02)
the problem I run into is that a lot of feminists of my mother’s era (baby boom generation) take all those ”liberation”
ideas and interpret them as ”don’t be a martyr, have the epidural!” (actually said to me by one of my aunts at the
baby shower for my first pregnancy) and ”what do you do? oh, you’re home with your baby - well, what will you be
going back to after maternity leave?” as if mothering children isn’t enough (and these have happened at church!). I
have been subjected to disapproval from older women because I CHOSE to let my husband’s career be more important
than my own (his is a steadier income than I could hope to have without an advanced degree, being a public school
science teacher - which he became the August after we finished our bachelors degrees, and so since our household
finances couldn’t support us both going to grad school and he needed extra classes for his license, I CHOSE to put off
my advanced degrees until after we started a family, I’m currently hoping to finish my Master’s then have one more
baby, then on to PhD and MAYBE one more baby while I’m working on that degree, so they’ll all be born before I’m
trying to deal with being a professor and such. I said I wanted 5 when my first was less than two hours old and I still
feel like there are two family members missing as I hold my sleeping 3rd baby in my lap to type this). I have been
told, outright ot my face, that I am squandering my potential and talents by devoting these years to motherhood (and
having ”so many” children - these are people who don’t know I still wish to have 2 more as that is not something I
bring up much). The academic research I want to do involves pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, and other parenting
issues (basically children and their parents from conception through early adulthood, and how differences early on
may shape outcomes in the young adult years). My children are my pilot subjects ;) Piaget did it too.
68