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Dad is alive, alert, and describes himself as restless. They won't X-ray him until they<br />
stabilize his heart. spO2 is ranging 88% to 92%. Pulse 120. Blood pressure scares me at<br />
90/38.<br />
He expects to be admitted overnight.<br />
Sent from my iPhone **<br />
<strong>My</strong> ex-wife wrote back "Thank G-d!" when learning my dad was alive and alert. Divorces<br />
are tough on families and there is a temptation to demonize the ex. <strong>My</strong> dad never gave in<br />
to that temptation, and was probably the most even-tempered of the lot of us during that<br />
time. I've previously posted about the benefits of a happy blended family, and this was<br />
one of them: <strong>My</strong> ex-wife stood by the ready to help, and when my dad died, she was able<br />
not just to comfort our daughter, but to comfort her from a place of empathy.<br />
Turns out I read the blood pressure wrong. There will be errors, and when reporting to<br />
remote family members correcting the errors quickly is pretty important:<br />
** Email: Date: Wed, 18 Apr 2012 11:50:49 -0700<br />
Subject: Re: Update 11:43<br />
Correction. I misread blood pressure. 113/47<br />
Sent from my iPhone **<br />
In retrospect, I'm not sure that I misread the blood pressure, since it kept swinging pretty<br />
widely, but in the moment I wanted it to be 113/47 more than 90/38, so when I saw that<br />
reading, I was pretty willing to assume an error rather than volatility.<br />
I told the nurse that we wanted dad to speak <strong>with</strong> the doctor directly about his instructions<br />
regarding "do not resuscitate" ("DNR") and similar issues. The nurse said she would get<br />
the doctor.<br />
By noon, I was starting to feel a real risk that dad wouldn't make it out of the hospital. On<br />
the one hand, I was thinking they might send him to a regular room, but in my gut I was<br />
worried he wouldn't even make it to the ICU. I didn't want my out of town family to be<br />
caught by surprise (more than they already would be) by getting "he's at the hospital"<br />
emails followed by a "he passed away" email. So I sent an email offering a pretty frank<br />
assessment:<br />
** Email: Date: Wed, 18 Apr 2012 12:03:49 -0700<br />
Subject: Re: Update 1201<br />
O2 saturation took a nosedive before recovering.<br />
Dad is kind of out of it on and off.<br />
I'm not an MD so my intuition means little scientifically, but I have a very bad feeling in my<br />
gut about this one.<br />
Sent from my iPhone **<br />
The emails are, by now, getting harder and harder to send, but I'm getting to the point<br />
where I am getting teary-eyed and I fear having a phone conversation would be a very<br />
hard thing to do <strong>with</strong>out becoming incoherent. So emails it was.<br />
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