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used it), some stuff for my mom, and materials to modify his glasses to fit the BiPAP<br />
mask. He never did wear his glasses again -- by the time I had the materials to modify the<br />
glasses, he never got to the point where he was interested in wearing them.<br />
The thing I think he didn't consider about the BiPAP mask is that it is like a mini hurricane<br />
when the patient tries to lift the mask to talk. If the patient doesn't lift the mask, the<br />
sounds are muffled. So once they fitted him <strong>with</strong> the mask, there would be no intimate<br />
whispers, no final lengthy conversations. Communications reduced to signs, words,<br />
sometimes sentences. We, of course, talked <strong>with</strong> him a lot. His inability to respond was<br />
probably more frustrating to him than anybody else. He couldn't see clearly or talk clearly<br />
due to the BiPAP mask. Layered on top of the hearing loss from the earlier chemo round,<br />
he was limited in his interactions <strong>with</strong> the world. Perhaps it was how he wanted it. He<br />
started to close his eyes more often, and at times he looked like he was dreaming<br />
peacefully. <strong>My</strong> heart imagines him dreaming of good days during those moments.<br />
They finally took dad to the ICU. This marked the second time my mom and I were forced<br />
to spend time away from dad. We followed his bed to the ICU, but they stopped us at the<br />
door and said they needed to be alone <strong>with</strong> him to get him set up and do the intake. We<br />
waited in the ICU waiting room. The ICU waiting room was decorated <strong>with</strong> borderlinedepressing<br />
images so bland they were probably unnoticed by the others in the room. The<br />
television was blaring <strong>with</strong> an A&E show about a bounty hunter. Mom and I sat next to<br />
each other. We were told we would be called back soon, but it took nearly 45 minutes.<br />
Ultimately, we got back in by following a nurse through the doors. Not following protocol,<br />
but nobody complained.<br />
When we got in, I introduced myself to the nurse and asked the questions I had learned<br />
to ask during the last stay. The first question -- did he get Dilaudid yet? Yes. In better<br />
times, dad wasn't a big drinker and didn't use painkillers in a serious way. In fact, he often<br />
ignored his Vicodin prescription during the weeks leading to this day in favor of a simple<br />
Advil. So he was very sensitive to painkillers. And he'd asked for more than he usually<br />
asked for during his prior hospital stay. A smart doctor, in respiratory distress, very<br />
responsive to low dose Dilaudid, yet receiving a higher dose than normal. He wasn't<br />
going to suffer on the way out, and cancer wasn't going to get extra days of artificial life<br />
support during which it could torment him.<br />
Soon they wheeled dad out for a CT scan and again banished us to the ICU waiting<br />
room. They again took a long time before letting us in to see him. I suspect he was<br />
instructing the nursing staff at this point and wanted privacy to give some blunt<br />
instructions to them.<br />
** Email: Date: Wed, 18 Apr 2012 17:11:24 -0700<br />
Subject: Ct done<br />
Dad just got back from ct scan. They wont yet let us in to see him. No real news for the<br />
moment but hopefully know more soon<br />
Sent from my iPhone **<br />
We were in no mood to remain banished to the waiting room, so we were appreciative<br />
when the cardiologist came by, got us from the waiting room, and took us into the ICU so<br />
we could participate in the conversation <strong>with</strong> dad.<br />
As I wrote two months ago, during dad's past hospitalization, around 2:30 a.m. one night<br />
he developed a sinus tachycardia of around 120 beats per minute, and around 3:00 a.m.<br />
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