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Positive Reacting Styles
Positive Reacting Styles
The Mirrorer- sees that the Sufferer is doing/or
has done an OCD behavior. Comments like “I can
see you are struggling, anything I can do to
coach you”
The Echo- listens and hears the Sufferer comment
on a bad experience or difficult day. Reflective
statements like “I hear you and I am listening.
Sounds tough, I am here!”
The Supporter- reminds the Sufferer that they
will always be there and they are willing to help.
Makes comments like “You know no matter what
we face, I love and support you!”
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Positive Reacting Styles
Stages the Support Person
May Experience
The Team Player- looks at this struggle as
something to be faced by more than the Sufferer
alone. Is willing to share the burden and helps to
lighten the load. Is cohesive and pulls together.
The Victory Emphasizer- thinks of the
positive. Emphasizes strengths, not weaknesses.
Recounts victories when the Sufferer needs to hear
them. Sees the Sufferer as courageous and strong.
1. Denial- I don’t want to hear about it, don’t want
to understand it, tries to overlook it, pretends it will
resolve itself.
2. Accept it as the Sufferer’s Problem- I
see it as YOUR problem. YOU need to do
something about it.
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