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176 <strong>The</strong> <strong>Slight</strong> <strong>Edge</strong><br />
of his life, Charles Foster Kane was consumed by a single thought: anguish over<br />
being ripped from his childhood and thrust into the world alone at the age of eight.<br />
<strong>The</strong> “great man” had no one to share his conquests and accomplishments with.<br />
Earlier in this chapter, I wrote that the importance of health is “one of the<br />
most commonly known truths of human existence—and also one of the most<br />
commonly and blatantly ignored.” <strong>The</strong> same can be said for the importance of<br />
relationships. How often have you heard of a successful businessperson who<br />
achieved great financial success only at the expense of those two most precious<br />
assets, good health and a rich family life?<br />
When writing about the Law of Associations, I mentioned the importance<br />
of who you associate with in terms of its strategic effect on you. But there is a<br />
greater truth about your associations, too, because the relationships you choose<br />
are not only a means to an end, they are also an end in themselves. All the success<br />
in the world, as Charles Foster Kane learned, means little if there is no one to<br />
share it with.<br />
Relationships, too, are both built up and torn down in the subtlest ways.<br />
Because most people are not aware of the <strong>Slight</strong> <strong>Edge</strong>, the progress of their<br />
relationships tends to be a mystery. What makes a marriage grow richer over the<br />
years for one couple, and grow stale, empty and bitter for another? Nine times<br />
out of ten—or better, nineteen times out of twenty—there is no single, significant<br />
answer. It is the little things, day by day, that add up over time to unshakable<br />
happiness or unsalvageable misery.<br />
You’ve no doubt heard the expression, “It’s the little things that count.” <strong>The</strong>re<br />
could scarcely be a more succinct statement of the <strong>Slight</strong> <strong>Edge</strong>—and chances are,<br />
you’ve heard it said in the context of a relationship. <strong>The</strong> remembered birthdays,<br />
the little gifts, the gestures, the kind words, the remembered favorite color. <strong>The</strong><br />
five minutes, snatched from an impossibly hectic day, to drop everything and<br />
hear the other’s news. <strong>The</strong> word of encouragement; the reminder of your own<br />
belief in the other person. <strong>The</strong> listening.<br />
It’s been said that the most important statements of friendship are usually<br />
spoken with five words or less. That is the wisdom of the <strong>Slight</strong> <strong>Edge</strong>: those tiny<br />
thoughts and gestures that are startlingly easy to do ... and tragically easy not to do.<br />
<strong>The</strong> future of every relationship you have, like that of your health, is a choice<br />
that is always in your hands, and it’s no bigger than a penny. <strong>The</strong> key is to make<br />
the choice—and keep making it.<br />
A special category of relationships, of course, is family. If you have children,<br />
you probably already know that they are in many ways your greatest legacy. No<br />
matter what the state of the educational system (and regardless of the decade or