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English - Ontario Association of Children's Aid Societies

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Visits <strong>of</strong>ten get cancelled because there are no<br />

drivers. Even a once a week visit can mean so much to<br />

a person.<br />

> > Become aware <strong>of</strong> the life cycle wheel and ensure that<br />

healthy attachment occurs between the child and<br />

his/her parents within the first five years (children<br />

need to see their mothers and fathers even if they are<br />

not living with them)<br />

> > Be love-focused: Involve as many members <strong>of</strong> the<br />

immediate and extended family in the love and care <strong>of</strong><br />

the child<br />

> > Recognize that attachment is essential for healthy<br />

development <strong>of</strong> a child<br />

WHEN WORKING WITH THE ENTIRE FAMILY<br />

Each family shares a certain dynamic, and supports its members<br />

in its own unique way. The focus group members shared the<br />

following suggestions for working with a family:<br />

> > Acknowledge the family’s strengths by focusing on<br />

their abilities and assets<br />

> > Involve the extended family and the community as<br />

quickly as possible to support the family<br />

> > In your initial contact with the family, ask questions<br />

that help you determine the best immediate support:<br />

PRACTICE TIP<br />

Learn about family violence risk<br />

assessment tools that can determine<br />

what the risk is in that family. For an<br />

abuser who is aware <strong>of</strong> his violent<br />

behaviour a safety plan can be<br />

created. See Appendix C.<br />

“My son was taken from me in the<br />

hospital. For the first three months,<br />

my infant son was in foster care. I only<br />

saw him for two hours a week. Now I<br />

fear that he did not attach to me.”<br />

- Focus group participant<br />

PRACTICE TIP<br />

Create a Safety Plan for a child. See<br />

Appendix D.<br />

> Is anyone in the family First Nations, Inuit or Métis<br />

> What programs or support services is the family currently using<br />

> What led to the violence today<br />

> > In later consultations with the family, ask questions that allow for accurate<br />

assessment <strong>of</strong> the family’s situation. Ask about the history <strong>of</strong> the family and<br />

help them create their story in their own words:<br />

> What happens in your family when violence is not present<br />

> Can you share some <strong>of</strong> the good times in your family<br />

> In the beginning there must have been a lot <strong>of</strong> good energy between<br />

you. What attracted you to your partner<br />

> What influences (historical and current) have led to the way you<br />

parent your children<br />

> What helps you when you are stressed Who can help you with the<br />

child(ren) What is your community (i.e., cultural connections) Are<br />

there programs or supports you are currently using<br />

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