BEHAVIORAL SCIENCES - Universitatea de Medicină şi Farmacie
BEHAVIORAL SCIENCES - Universitatea de Medicină şi Farmacie
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actor that you are proper, polite, and refined. They are like laws in that<br />
they codify or set a standard for human behavior, but they are unlike laws<br />
in that there is no formal system for punishing transgressions, other than<br />
social disapproval. They are a kind of norm. What is consi<strong>de</strong>red<br />
"mannerly" is highly susceptible to change with time, geographical<br />
location, social stratum, occasion, and other factors. That manners matter<br />
is evi<strong>de</strong>nced by the fact that large books have been written on the subject,<br />
advice columns frequently <strong>de</strong>al with questions of mannerly behavior, and<br />
that schools have existed for the sole purpose of teaching manners. A lady<br />
is a term frequently used for a woman who follows proper manners; the<br />
term gentleman is used as a male counterpart; though these terms are also<br />
often used for members of a particular social class.<br />
Politeness is best expressed as the practical application of good<br />
manners or etiquette. It is a culturally <strong>de</strong>fined phenomenon, and therefore<br />
what is consi<strong>de</strong>red polite in one culture can sometimes be quite ru<strong>de</strong> or<br />
simply strange in another cultural context.<br />
While the goal of politeness is to make all of the parties relaxed<br />
and comfortable with one another, these culturally <strong>de</strong>fined standards at<br />
times may be manipulated to inflict shame on a <strong>de</strong>signated party.<br />
The British social anthropologists Penelope Brown and Stephen<br />
Levinson i<strong>de</strong>ntified two kinds of politeness:<br />
Negative politeness: Making a request less infringing, such as<br />
"If you don't mind..." or "If it isn't too much trouble..."; respects a person's<br />
right to act freely. In other words, <strong>de</strong>ference. There is a greater use of<br />
indirect speech acts.<br />
Positive politeness: Seeks to establish a positive relationship<br />
between parties; respects a person's need to be liked and un<strong>de</strong>rstood.<br />
Direct speech acts, swearing and flouting maxims can be consi<strong>de</strong>red<br />
aspects of positive politeness because:<br />
o they show an awareness that the relationship is strong enough<br />
to cope with what would normally be consi<strong>de</strong>red impolite (in the popular<br />
un<strong>de</strong>rstanding of the term);<br />
o they articulate an awareness of the other person's values,<br />
which fulfills the person's <strong>de</strong>sire to be accepted.<br />
Some cultures seem to prefer one of these kinds of politeness over<br />
the other. To be polite in one culture or society mean to know and to<br />
follow the etiquette accepted in them.<br />
Examples of etiquette:<br />
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