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Learning and playing<br />
H OW TO MAKE SURE YOUR<br />
CHILD LEARNS WHAT YOU<br />
WANT HIM OR HER TO LEARN<br />
When children play they’re learning<br />
what they want. Often these will<br />
also be the things you want them to<br />
learn, but for some things they may<br />
need extra encouragement, like<br />
using the potty (see page 52),<br />
washing or dressing themselves,<br />
learning what not to touch and<br />
where it’s not safe to run. It’s worth<br />
thinking about how you do it.<br />
•<br />
Wait until you think your child<br />
is ready. Forcing something too<br />
soon usually ends in failure. You<br />
get cross and upset, your child<br />
gets cross and upset, and the<br />
whole thing becomes impossible.<br />
If it doesn’t work out, leave it for<br />
a few weeks and try again.<br />
•<br />
Try not to make it seem too<br />
important. Your child may learn<br />
to eat with a spoon because it’s<br />
fun but still want to be fed when<br />
he or she is tired, or may enjoy<br />
the first few times on the potty<br />
because you’re so pleased and<br />
then get bored with the idea. In<br />
time he or she will see that it is<br />
worthwhile learning to be more<br />
grown-up and independent.<br />
•<br />
Keep it safe. If your child is<br />
under three years old, he or she<br />
can’t really understand why not to<br />
touch your stereo or pull leaves<br />
off your pot plants, so keep things<br />
you don’t want touched well out<br />
of the way and you’ll both be less<br />
frustrated. Time enough to learn<br />
about not touching when your<br />
child can understand why.<br />
•<br />
Be encouraging. Your happiness<br />
is your child’s best reward for good<br />
behaviour. If you give your child a<br />
big smile, a cuddle or praise when<br />
he or she does something right,<br />
your child is much more likely to<br />
try doing it again. Giving your<br />
child attention and praise for<br />
doing something right works<br />
much better than telling him or<br />
her off for doing something wrong.<br />
•<br />
Don’t ask for perfection or for<br />
instant success. It’s safest to expect<br />
everything to take much longer<br />
than you’d hoped.<br />
•<br />
Set an example. Whatever it<br />
may look like, your child does<br />
want to be like you and do what<br />
you do. So seeing you wash in the<br />
bath, brush your teeth or use the<br />
toilet does help.<br />
•<br />
Avoid fuss and confrontation.<br />
Once something gets blown up, it<br />
can take longer and be much more<br />
difficult for everybody to calm down.<br />
•<br />
Be firm. Children need you to<br />
decide some things for them, and<br />
need you to stick to your<br />
decisions. They need some firm<br />
guidelines. So try not to waver.<br />
You might start something like<br />
potty training, decide your child<br />
isn’t ready, and give up for a<br />
while. That’s fine. But a child<br />
who is in nappies one day, out the<br />
next and back in them the next is<br />
bound to get confused.<br />
•<br />
Be consistent. For the same<br />
reason, it’s important that<br />
everybody involved in looking<br />
after your child is teaching more<br />
or less the same things in more or<br />
less the same way. If you and your<br />
partner, or you and your<br />
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