Gary_John_Bishop_Unfu_k_Yourself__Get_Out_of_You

Stop blaming other people.
Stop pointing to outside influences or circumstances.
Stop blaming your childhood or neighborhood.
This approach is fundamental to everything that I talk about in these pages.
You cannot, I repeat CANNOT dwell in any blame game in your life. Even
blaming yourself is completely useless. Of course you’ll face situations that
you seemingly can’t control. You may even face tragic circumstances, like
disability, disease, or the death of a loved one.
But there is always something you can do to impact those circumstances even
if you’ve had them for years and still can’t see a way. But first, you must be
willing. To fully embrace my approach, you must first accept that while there
are things have happened in your life that you had no say in, you are 100%
responsible for what you do with your life in the aftermath of those events.
Always, every time, no excuses.
The dictionary describes willingness as – “The quality or state of being
prepared: Readiness”.
In other words, willingness is a state in which we can engage with life and
see a situation from a new perspective. It starts with you and ends with you.
No one can make you willing, and you cannot move forward until you really
are willing to make the next move.
When you are finally willing, you can literally experience that willingness,
that innate freedom that courses through your veins and similarly when you
are not, the kind of primordial stuck-ness that halts, and presses down on you
like some invisible weight on your chest.
Believe me, I hear you, “I am willing but...”. Every time you add the “but” to
the end of that statement, you turn yourself into the victim. In my many years
as a coach and mentor, I have heard as many complex life situations as there
are, from the darkest of pasts to the weight and gravity of the present or
crippling fear of the future, I have heard them over and over and over again.
You have to hear what I am saying in the way that it’s intended. I’m not
saying these things to inflame you, well, maybe I am but the intention is to
inflame you to your own potential, to realize your own greatness, not just to