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just another something in a sea of somethings.
Your boat hasn’t and won’t sink so easily. There may be some waves, you
might go through some storms, and you’ll probably end up seasick from time
to time, but your journey across that ocean we call life will continue.
But just like a captain facing a major squall, you can’t just let yourself be
tossed about. You have to step up and steer your life back in the direction you
want it to go. So your journey wasn’t as smooth as you wanted it to be. Does
that mean you’re just going to let yourself get blown off course? I didn’t
think so. And you definitely shouldn’t let what happens in one area of life
affect your outlook on the whole. You just can’t afford to allow your
struggles at work make you miserable at home or let your relationship
troubles affect your mood at the office.
Face your problems as they come, one by one, give them the attention they
need and move on. Bundling them all together into a morass of confusion and
letting them overwhelm you just won’t help. It takes precision, patience and
discipline of thought. Work through each item pragmatically and with a
solution in mind. Remember, everything is solve-able, and if you can’t see a
solution, it only means you haven’t worked it out yet.
Often the reason you can’t see the solution is because you’re too close to the
problem. Zoom out a little, zoom out a LOT and look at the big picture. This
is a similar phenomenon to what psychologists call “cognitive
restructuring”—Shifting the way in which your problems are presenting
themselves in your life.
Our minds naturally play tricks on us, twisting and distorting our thoughts in
ways that are not always rational. Even though we’d like to think we’re
always logical, we’re not. We’re at the mercy of cognitive biases, emotions
and misconceptions and most of it is completely unseen by us.
Sometimes we’re too close, too involved in it to even realize. It’s up to us to
slow down, take a step back, and understand what’s really going on.
“That’s one of the peculiar things about bad moods
– we often fool ourselves and create misery by