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getting things done at the very last minute. Or maybe it’s something else. The
key here is to question yourself, look at your actions. What is the real point of
all of this? What is it that you get to be right about when all is said and done?
Just like I demonstrated in the opening example about romantic relationship,
we hold a certain belief about ourselves or life that we prove right time and
time again through our everyday actions. Those beliefs uncannily turn out to
be deadly accurate in our reality. Spinning your wheels? What are you out to
prove there?
“I’m not worthy of love”, “I’m not smart”, “I’m a failure”, I’m not as capable
as I used to be”. With these kinds of repeats stuck in your subconscious, is it
any wonder that you are masterful in consistently proving them right? To
succeed in another, more positive way, you’d have to prove those firmly held
beliefs WRONG! For your persona, that’s a ground-shaking idea that is
almost too much to bear. It would in fact unsettle the very foundations of who
you have become!
Many of my clients, I have found, have one particular thing in common: the
subconscious desire to prove that their parents did a bad job raising them.
This can manifest in so many different ways, some being worse than others.
Some are subtle, others obvious, while all are very potent.
You might try to prove that your parents failed to raise you well by treating
your body like crap, getting arrested, becoming addicted to drugs or alcohol,
dropping out of school, consistently failing in relationships, chronic financial
crises or any one of a number of seemingly random paths we get ourselves
lost in. They can drop all the way down to simply being disconnected or lost
in the pressures of work as an adult.
All of these are real-life examples that some of my clients discovered about
themselves that ultimately “proved” that one or both of their parents failed to
do their job, that their experiences as children did not adequately prepare
them for adulthood. This belief, conveniently, also allows for a ready-made
explanation as to why they did what they did and why they, from time to
time, acted like complete assholes to others in their life.
Can you see ways in which you do this in your own life? Think of the
problem areas in your life. Now think about them in terms of what you are