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suppression, anger, lethargy, essentially anywhere you are deflated or have
some loss of your personal chutzpah or any other suppressive emotion, you
have these expectations. Any place where you’re just not yourself, if you look
at these places long enough, you’ll see the reality of that area of your life is
some way short of the scenario you had anticipated in your mind’s eye. If you
have upset in your marriage, you’ll see a gap between your expectation
between how is was “supposed” to be and how it in fact is. For others it
might be your finances, your weight loss, new
job, etc.
Your powerlessness is directly correlated to the gap between your hidden
expectations and your reality. The greater the gap, the worse you’ll actually
feel.
I read somewhere that the root cause of upset in marriage is unmet
expectation.
I think it goes out further, much further. I say the problem is expectation
itself. I contend that the upsets strewn throughout your entire life are a
product of thousands of unspoken or unrecognized expectations that cast a
giant shadow across your life experience; causing great stress when you’re
trying to make life fit with your expectations and great disappointment when
life doesn’t match up to them.
Here’s what else they do, they actually get in the way of our real lives, our
real issues and items that require attention. They are like a mirage that diverts
us from our genuine power and clouds our ability to take pronounced,
decisive action. In short, you end up working on your expectations and
having life line up with them rather than taking the actions that would
positively impact your situation. This “sidetracking” draws all of your power
away from what’s actually going to improve your life or accomplish your
goal, down a pathway of no power, no results and wasted time.
CUTTING OUT THE MIDDLE MAN OF
EXPECTATION
Now that we’ve busted our problems with expectations wide open, you’ll