Gary_John_Bishop_Unfu_k_Yourself__Get_Out_of_You

You look back at your childhood, to times when you didn’t feel loved
enough. Or periods of adolescence where you felt like an outsider or past
relationships that played out like a scene from the movie Groundhog Day
except with different players each time. So frustrating!
Then one day, you meet someone. You go on a few dates and find out you
really enjoy each other’s company. Things are coming along nicely as the
days stretch into weeks and the weeks into months.
Eventually that day comes where you can’t help yourselves – you exchange
your first “I love you’s”.
Not only are you in love, but you start to wonder, “Could they be ‘the one’?!”
Could this be it? Wheeeeee!!! The bliss, excitement and possibility are
invigorating and enlivening.
At some point however the dark clouds of doubt start rolling in, it starts in
small ways that grow first slowly and then all at once until the storm finally
breaks loose. No sooner are you “in love” than you start to fall out,
waaaaaaay out. The smallest things turn to arguments. The chemistry slowly
evaporates until your relationship is a desert, barren and dry and you are left
with the soul-destroying basics of just trying to get along. Ugh. Not again.
At some point you both can see it’s not working – perhaps you reach a
breaking point and have one (or a number) of those nasty fallings out. Maybe
it just slowly dies until you eventually decide to pull the plug. Either way,
you eventually go your separate ways. Oh well. You’re hurt, crushed but
somehow resolute that eventually things will turn out for you. Someday.
Except they did. Even though it may look and feel like a loss, this was in fact
a glorious, resounding win. A victory from the Gods. HURRRAH!
The truth of it is, you are winning at the life you have.
What if I don’t want this life? Fine; but this is the one you’re currently
winning at.
BUILDING THE MYSTERY