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It’s not that I’m anti-planning, (I most certainly am not), but the stone-coldattachment to the plan, (and all the expectation therein), is a little like fallingout of a row-boat and continuing to row even though you have no oars and noboat under you anymore. Your plan (and image) of how this should havegone is no longer relevant but yet you still struggle to reconcile the spacebetween your expectations and reality.Life can be like that at times. On some occasions you have to realize that thegame has changed (sometimes dramatically so) and you need to pivot. Dealwith your reality.Wake up, you’re in the water. Stop waving your arms about and paddle toshore dammit!LIFE IS MORE OF A DANCE THAN AMARCHOur mind has all kinds of automatic thought processes that we don’t evenknow are going on. Expectations are just one of them, albeit an importantone.Here’s the harsh truth about how our brain works.We all like to believe in something called “free will”. It’s one of thoseconcepts that really speaks to who we are as human beings. I mean, let’s behonest, if we don’t have free will, what in the hell do we have?We value the notion that we freely choose what we do, and when to do it. Wewant to feel that we control our own fate and shape our own destiny.But when our minds are ruled by these automatic thought processes, do wereally have free will? Many would argue that we don’t. Listen, here’s howmuch free will you have – stop doing all that shit you know you shouldn’t bedoing and start doing all the shit you know you should be doing. All of it.This free will stuff isn’t so easy now is it!?“No man is free who is not master of himself.”
- EpictetusBecause, as we’ve talked about throughout this book, even when you feelyourself making a conscious decision, there are a series of unconsciousthought processes that are driving that choice. Things you don’t even see oracknowledge.People are much more irrational and illogical than we realize. In many cases,our subconscious is the puppet master that truly pulls the strings.Fortunately, you can take back your freedom to choose. And that’s byunderstanding how your mind works, seeing what it’s doing as it does it, andbeing able to use that information to cognitively choose something else. Tomake conscious that which is currently unconscious.Expectations are just one of these things.WHEN LIFE IS APPROPRIATE“I expect nothing and accept everything.” This is your final personalassertion.Let me get clear about this one. This is not some meek, weak, submission tolife. No, this is the statement of a masterful celebrant of success, someonewho cannot be dominated by anyone or anything.When you expect nothing, you’re living in the moment. You’re not worryingabout the future or rejecting the past. You’re simply embracing your situationas it comes. When you accept everything, that doesn’t mean you are ok withit or that you agree with it, but simply that you are owning it and in charge ofit. Remember you can always change something when you can takeownership and responsibility for it. Sometimes it’s the single most effectiveway of resolving your “stuff.” Own it!“Don’t seek to have events happen as you wish, butwish them to happen as they do happen, and all willbe well with you.”
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Unfu*k Yourself
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This book is dedicated to my three
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Chapter 1In the beginning…
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Have you ever felt like a hamster o
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seem bigger - and even create probl
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it’s easy to collapse them in wit
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Scientists have discovered that our
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relentless”. One of those stateme
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Chapter 2“I am willing.”
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You have the life you’re willing
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piss you off! Take the case, imagin
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I AM UNWILLING!!Unwillingness ignit
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instance, we’d probably all like
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etc.Of course you might well be dea
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Chapter 3“I am wired to win.”
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What if I told you that even when y
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How could I possibly call a failed
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to make that money constitute that
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winning at. What do you see there?I
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Where would you really like to see
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Chapter 4“I got this.”
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