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instance, we’d probably all like to be filthy rich. But are you willing to dowhat it takes to make that much money? Are you willing to work 60, 70 or 80hours of your week or skip vacations to do the work that needs to get done?Are you willing to take on more responsibility and, importantly, risk it all?Have you, in reality, confronted and dealt with what becoming filthy richmight really demand of you? The seemingly endless drain on your life andmind space? Our society has produced such a headlong rush to be thewealthiest, the smartest, the prettiest, the best dressed, the funniest or thestrongest, and somewhere in there we have lost the ability to just beourselves, free to breathe life and choose our own path rather than carry theburden of social or familial expectation. What does all that produce? Well, alot of disappointed and unfulfilled human beings that’s for sure.That doesn’t mean you should stop pursuing amazing life goals if that’s whatyou really want. It also doesn’t mean you should let yourself stagnate andstop improving either. There’s nothing inherently wrong in working longhours and sacrificing your quality of life, and some people might be perfectlycontent doing so in order to make the income or get the career they want. Butso many of us have actually forgotten why we are pursuing what we arepursuing in the first place.All too often, we focus solely on what we don’t have, even though deepdown we don’t really need it or perhaps even want it. When I lay these thingsout, you might be nodding your head. “He’s right, I don’t need to be amillionaire” or “I don’t even really want six-pack abs.”Which of course is all fine until the next time you see that nice car and think,“Why don’t I have that?”, or when you look at the cover of a magazine andwonder, “Why don’t I look like that?” or “Why aren’t my clothes that nice?”Making sure we’re striving for what we really want requires a constantcheck-in with ourselves. It’s not a one-and-done deal.If you really want those things, then go get them! Begin today, lay out yourstrategy, deal with your reality and, most importantly, take the actionsrequired and take them often!But if you’re not willing to work an extra 10 or 20 hours a week just to driveto work in a BMW instead of a Honda, give up the complete waste of
precious headspace to yearn for it. Stop pretending to yourself. Deal withyour unwillingness to take on the kind of actions accomplishing those thingswould require and accept that you have been bullshitting yourself. You’llhave a lot more capacity for loving the life you actually do have and createsome room to begin striving for the things you actually want in life.“I am unwilling” to give up all of my favorite foods just to have the body Idid when I was 20. “I am unwilling” to trade time with my family for an extrazero on my paycheck.Face your reality. Once you adopt the mindset of “I am unwilling”, you willno longer be filled with guilt, resentment or regret every time you seesomething you think you “want”. You’ll be in a place where you areconnected to and in tune with your real life and, if you really want to pursuethose things in the future, you’ll be able to locate yourself from that realityand plot your road to accomplish them.CHART YOUR PATHOne of the beautiful things about really taking a hard look at your life andgoals is that doing so forces you to re-evaluate the path that leads to them.Is exercising 30 minutes a day really as impossible as your mind has built itup to be? Sure, you’re going to get a little sweaty and tired but you can throwon your favorite music to help the time go by faster. And, even though itmight start out painfully, you’ll eventually get used to that and grow stronger.What’s the worst thing that can happen if you offer your idea in that meeting?It gets shot down? So what? Even if you’re faced with bigger tasks—MUCHbigger tasks like years of back taxes, a hoarder’s paradise of a garage, tellingthe truth to someone you’ve been lying to—the path to change starts with thatsame glimmer of willingness.Bear in mind we all tend to build things up in our minds to be a lot biggerthan they really are. Telling the truth becomes a trek to the Sahara Desert andback. If that’s the case for you, try breaking the task down into smallerdeclarations of willingness to “stand up”, “get out of bed”, “open my email”,
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ABOUT THE AUTHORGARY JOHN BISHOPBor
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