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How was the wife treated
Most of the kinds of marriage which have been mentioned did
not show any sign of deep emotions or feelings between the two
partners which might suggest a true conjugal life. On the contrary,
it was. regarded more or less as a sexual relationship and in.
consequence of that, there were no deep intense feelings. However,
if we consider BUI-tula marriage as the ideal kind of mariage, the
relation between the husband and the wife would depend on three
important factors
1. The first one was the position of the wife's family; if the family
of the wife was in a high position. this means that the husband might
consider her family position and treat her well.
2. If her tribe was far from her. the wife's position might be
influenced by the loss of the protection of her tribe.
3*. If the husband and the wife were cousins, it would be necessary
for the husband to treat his wife well. But if the wife were from a
low class in society. in this case, the wife might face a terrible
life with her husband. who would ignore her, fail to respect her,
or even beat her# with a whip.
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In_general. the man in Jahiliyyah would not accept disobedience
from his wife. but sometimes we might find the wife in settled society
had a higher position than the one who lived in bedouin society as
Hatab mentioned "In summary. some women became wealthy. either through
inheritance or trading and managed to keep their wealth even after
marriage, because in the marriage contract. the husband had the right
to live with her and produce children but not to own her. These women
took advantage of their status and dictated conditions to' their husbands#
like for example, having the right to divorce them. or the children
being named after their mother. 2
1. U4ab. op. cit.. P. 53
2. Ibid
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